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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 96243"><p>Raising a difficult child is hard. Raising a 13 year old, smart-mouthed, rule-flaunting difficult child should warrant hazard pay.</p><p></p><p>I don't mean to sound harsh, but if husband can't control himself (he and difficult child both trying to hit each other), how can he expect a 13 year old to control himself? </p><p></p><p>I know that husband is angry, frustrated and hurting, but he didn't have any right to try to make you choose. If I were forced, I would always choose my children, but I would probably always have some regret and maybe even a little resentment that because of my child's behavior I had to give up someone important to me. We're human, afterall. It's even more unfair because husband is not willing to go to family counseling - something that might help the situation. He can't put it all on you if he's not willing to take any steps to try to help the situation.</p><p></p><p>Ultimately, you are not responsible for the relationship your husband and your son have. That is between them. You're in a no-win situation and no matter what you do one of them - or both - is going to accuse you of taking sides.</p><p></p><p>I agree with the poster (I think it was smallworld) who recommended further evaluation for you son.</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. You've been put in an incredibly tough spot. I will keep your family in my thoughts.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 96243"] Raising a difficult child is hard. Raising a 13 year old, smart-mouthed, rule-flaunting difficult child should warrant hazard pay. I don't mean to sound harsh, but if husband can't control himself (he and difficult child both trying to hit each other), how can he expect a 13 year old to control himself? I know that husband is angry, frustrated and hurting, but he didn't have any right to try to make you choose. If I were forced, I would always choose my children, but I would probably always have some regret and maybe even a little resentment that because of my child's behavior I had to give up someone important to me. We're human, afterall. It's even more unfair because husband is not willing to go to family counseling - something that might help the situation. He can't put it all on you if he's not willing to take any steps to try to help the situation. Ultimately, you are not responsible for the relationship your husband and your son have. That is between them. You're in a no-win situation and no matter what you do one of them - or both - is going to accuse you of taking sides. I agree with the poster (I think it was smallworld) who recommended further evaluation for you son. My heart goes out to you. You've been put in an incredibly tough spot. I will keep your family in my thoughts. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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