He's 12yo and currently diagnosis as conduct disorder. He's shown some tendencies toward sexual inappropriateness before like laying on the other kids or asking them to lay on him. He once told our daughter to open her mouth and act like a baby and to swallow the rubber snake toy he had in his hand. The doctor talked with us and showed concern that it would become worse. And now it has. Today we found out that he's been sneaking into the bedroom of our other two children, ages 5 and 7, a boy and girl respectively. They said he'd done it over the weekend while I was out of town and it was just Daddy home with them and that it was in the middle of the night. We asked the kids why they didn't go tell Daddy and they said they were afraid Daddy would be mad for waking him up in the night (he can be a bear on Saturday mornings when it's his turn to sleep in and they are rowdy.) difficult child claimed to have trouble sleeping. I can't get any more details out of the 5yo as to what happened while he was there, whether he just went to sleep or what. But later on I was able to casually ask our 7yo daughter if he had ever touched her in a "bad place" that's not good for others to touch. She immediately said yes and showed me where - her groin and her chest, but she didn't say those words. She touched them and I said your chest or your tummy and she answered with "my boob." We paged the doctor and he finally got back to us right after husband left with difficult child. I don't know what's going to happen but I know I don't want him in my home. I was sexually abused by my half brother starting at the age of 9, that I can remember. I won't allow this to happen to my baby girl. It might seem that I'm really calm for the situation at hand. 1 - no, I'm not calm, I'm numb, I'm dumbfounded, I'm speechless...... and 2 - I took a Xanax because I was starting to have a panic attack. The doctor started on the phone about how tricare won't cover certain things, we may have to appeal for coverage of his care if he's put in an area strictly for sexual offenders, etc. Frankly, I'm willing to appeal to whomever needs to hear this so they'll pay for him to have treatment because he obviously needs it. The doctor told us to talk up the part about him playing with knives (yes, this happens every so often and he stabbed and cut a can of pears this morning - again, dumbfounded) and all the other unsafe behaviors he does like crawling out on the roof, crossing a busy street on his husband's 10-speed, etc. and the fact that we are very concerned about the safety of the other 2 children, which is of course very true. husband just got there with him so I guess he and I are both in for a long night and a rough road ahead. If anyone has experience with this, I wouldn't mind hearing how it went. Thanks for reading.