I have been telling husband he really needs to stop pushing difficult child when he is having a meltdown. I have repeatedly explained he is only making it worse. husband has actually given me the same advice in the past but I took his advice and he needs to do the same ! husband really flips when difficult child is disrespectful to him. I understand how husband feels because I too have felt angry when difficult child is raging. However, silence and calm is mandatory during these moments. It just makes our home chaotic and everyone angry and upset. I let husband know that once he flips on difficult child he might as well forget having a calm conversation with difficult child. difficult child holds a grudge and will just keep his attitude up and is miserable and mean. When the heck will husband learn how to handle these situations? I am telling him after difficult child settles down that enough is enough !