I'm sitting here trying to calmly get Buster and difficult children 2 & 3 asleep while I'm fuming. It is hot here and it's bedtime. Everyone is miserable. The swamp cooler isn't hooked up to the water so its just the fan. I ask difficult child 1 to go pour water on the swamp cooler. He does. I'm happy with him, and I tell husband in a "look how great difficult child 1" is way. difficult child 1 is still out there playing with the squirt gun he used to do the job. husband rushes outside saying that he needs to go check what difficult child 1 has done because he might burn out the motor. A few min later I hear difficult child 1 crying hard. He comes in the house, face all red, sobbing that husband had pushed him with both hands hard enough that he flipped over. That husband had hurt him. I send difficult child 1 to his room to calm down and go talk to husband. husband is hooking up the water to the swamp cooler. He says that difficult child 1 was getting in the way and messing with the hoses. husband says he just moved him and didn't push him hard. husband does admit to using two hands to push him. I try to get husband to apologize to difficult child 1. After many justifications of himself and I'm still not letting the issue go husband says he'll think about it. I go inside and get everyone for prayers. difficult child 1 is acting over the top scared of husband. husband says for him to stop being a cowared demands difficult child 1 come right up to him and yells for difficult child 1 to walk around the house with some pride and dignity. Now he is yelling everything he says to anybody. When I'm putting difficult child 3 to bed I ask him what he saw because he and difficult child 2 were watching through a window. He told me that difficult child 1 turned on the water and then husband punched him. In order to get husband to even grudingly apologize I'll have to threaten divorce. I'm not sure what to do. I think my marriage is in trouble.