Thought I would give an update. Mom did file theft charges for the rings, I don't blame her and am glad she did. The police picked husband up last night and took him to jail on felony theft charges. They must have let him use his phone before they locked him up, as he texted me at 11:30 pm and told me he was in jail and has court at 1:30 pm. Don't know why he thinks I need to know when he has court, I am not going nor will I bail him out. He is up a creek. Don't know if anyone remembers, but last November he had theft charges from walmart while on a bad medication combo, but now I wonder about that, and if he had any new convictions in a certain time frame or did not remain compliant with his psychiatric treatment the charges would be enforced for that theft. It was a way for them to acknowledge his mental health issues, a version of our mental health court. So now he will have the charges from mom and the charges from wal mart. I don't know anyone who will have the money and be willing to bail him out, so he will be there for awhile. Today will just be a reading of the charges, and I don't know if they will keep him or let him go. It just depends on the judge. If it is the one he had last time? She will do everything in her power to keep him. So I might have some time to get the custody stuff dealt with. I am not telling the kids untill later. I want to be sure he is not released today, and want easy child to get through her dog show and enjoy it. I am not angry, am sad and numb. I am sad that the person he was is gone forever, and the person he has become has caused so much grief and pain to those who did all they could to help him, including my mom. My hope is that he will straighten himself out and have a good relationship with the kids, but right now? I don't think that is very likely. He has become everything he used to hate, could not stand people who did drugs, lied and stole. We had friends who took this path and he would get so angry, and now he has done the same. I still feel stupid for thinking that he was ever going to change, for thinking there was hope when there was none. I realize the writing was on the wall, but I did not want to read it. This is just too much, too horrible, and it all feels like a bad dream. I am in counseling, have been for awhile and will see my therapist on Thursday and difficult child sees his Thursday also. easy child? Has been through 2 counselors and says they do not help. Maybe I will be able to convince her to see another one, but I really doubt it. I think she needs it as badly as any of us, but I can only do so much. Most of the counselors around here won't see a kid unless they are willing, except maybe in extreme circumstances, so I don't know that I can make her go. There is a new one at the place I go and my therapist really likes her, maybe I will check her out and see if easy child might like her. I think the problem is that the kid tdocs are tailored to younger kids, and easy child picks up on that and does not like it. They get too used to working with younger kids, and it changes their approach? Not sure, just reaching for straws here. So more and more drama, but we are on our way to a less drama filled life. it will be a long hard road, but in the end it will be worth it.