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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 456694" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Odd as it might sound, in a way this was my wake up call too. </p><p></p><p>It made me realize just how much I do still love and care for husband and how much he means to me. </p><p></p><p>Back when he treated me like crud during the accident.......well, let's just say I'd never forgiven him for that. I held a grudge, I nursed it. (and I'm not even a hold a grudge sort of person) I let it drive a wedge between us. I kept my distance from him, no intimacy and not talking just sex....no hugging or anything in years. I didn't even try to understand, I just nursed the anger. </p><p></p><p>Well while he was in the ICU......when he was all attitude one minute and then just weird the next, then would do the I'm dying with the terrified little boy face on......I lost it and had to leave the room for awhile making the excuse I needed to go to the restroom. While the two aren't the same, mine was a few mins as his was days I was left alone, it might have been for the same reason. Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>We argue and fuss at each other, we drive each other nuts, we complain about each other and get get on each others nerves. I don't think you can live with someone this long and that not be the case. But he totally "gets" me, and I totally "get" him. We don't have to be perfect for each other. And I don't know what I'd do without him. So I'm just going to enjoy having him while he's here, in between having to fight the stubbornness and grumpiness ect. </p><p></p><p>This evening he pushed me so far on the phone I had to spell it out to him point blank. He was quiet for a very long time. Maybe I got through to him. I know he's working hard on getting to come home by sitting in the chair and doing his walks in the hallway. He stopped complaining about not smoking, even though I can't quit until we get the chantix script (not if he's to survive......both of us on that level of grouchy would have fireworks to rival the 4th of July) But I'll be going outside and keeping temptation out of sight. </p><p></p><p>I'll do what I can to make his recovery pleasant. As far as the diet, well I basically cook that way anyway......it's his eating around my meals that is the problem, and the soda, and that the man loves his salt. (salt won't be available to him, I'm picking up sea salt tomorrow) I'll walk with him too. Heck I've been trying to get him to walk with ME for years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 456694, member: 84"] Odd as it might sound, in a way this was my wake up call too. It made me realize just how much I do still love and care for husband and how much he means to me. Back when he treated me like crud during the accident.......well, let's just say I'd never forgiven him for that. I held a grudge, I nursed it. (and I'm not even a hold a grudge sort of person) I let it drive a wedge between us. I kept my distance from him, no intimacy and not talking just sex....no hugging or anything in years. I didn't even try to understand, I just nursed the anger. Well while he was in the ICU......when he was all attitude one minute and then just weird the next, then would do the I'm dying with the terrified little boy face on......I lost it and had to leave the room for awhile making the excuse I needed to go to the restroom. While the two aren't the same, mine was a few mins as his was days I was left alone, it might have been for the same reason. Know what I mean?? We argue and fuss at each other, we drive each other nuts, we complain about each other and get get on each others nerves. I don't think you can live with someone this long and that not be the case. But he totally "gets" me, and I totally "get" him. We don't have to be perfect for each other. And I don't know what I'd do without him. So I'm just going to enjoy having him while he's here, in between having to fight the stubbornness and grumpiness ect. This evening he pushed me so far on the phone I had to spell it out to him point blank. He was quiet for a very long time. Maybe I got through to him. I know he's working hard on getting to come home by sitting in the chair and doing his walks in the hallway. He stopped complaining about not smoking, even though I can't quit until we get the chantix script (not if he's to survive......both of us on that level of grouchy would have fireworks to rival the 4th of July) But I'll be going outside and keeping temptation out of sight. I'll do what I can to make his recovery pleasant. As far as the diet, well I basically cook that way anyway......it's his eating around my meals that is the problem, and the soda, and that the man loves his salt. (salt won't be available to him, I'm picking up sea salt tomorrow) I'll walk with him too. Heck I've been trying to get him to walk with ME for years. [/QUOTE]
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