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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 260499" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>HOC - </p><p> </p><p>I had a friend when I was younger that was a true hypochondriac. IT wore us out completely - we referred to her as an emotional vampire. She literally would drain all of us completely dry. At first (as a young girl) I thought her husband of 6 years was a cruel and uncaring man. Of course we all gave her sympathy for THAT. Then she would get us to do little things like bring her something to eat, vacuum her house, watch her son. At first you think - "I am really doing a good deed." eventually you start to avoid people like her like the plague. </p><p> </p><p>I came to her aid one day and found her reading a medical encyclopedia with the latest "ailment" she had. I was furious. I was trying to understand just what she was doing. None of it made sense. WE ended up parting ways - after I got married to my x (she introduced us so that should have been my first clue she was nuts)</p><p> </p><p>My thoughts with a child doing the same thing are to have her get a complete physical with blood draws, rectal exam, eye exam, hearing exam - the works as they say. Get all the results back and make the physician sign something that says she does check out to be in A-ok shape. Not to say something could not go wrong later - but at least for now you know there is nothing to complain about. </p><p> </p><p>I don't know if it's a medical curiosity - where kids are fascinated with blood and bandaids and bandages OR if it's more basic in attention seeking behaviors or a combination of both. There is of course a cure for hypochondriacs and most that are true hypos will tell you they ARE doing it for attention but don't know how to stop. Congnitive behavior therapy can be very helpful if she is diagnosis with this as a disease. </p><p> </p><p>If not - why not concoct some "cure all" of applecider vinegar, a tablespoon of garlic juice, some honey and keep in in a bottle. THe next time she complains of a fictitious ailment - give her a dose of that or something else like Castor oil and let her system "purge" the illness. </p><p> </p><p>I think mostly our kids just want our time. THey want our attention and in a multiple sibling home she may feel she's not getting her share of equal time so puts on the bandages and limps around to gain the sympathy of her friends or to get out of class a little early to have someone carry her books or just be "special" for the day. </p><p> </p><p>I would also take a moment and read her the story of the boy that cried wolf - the real fairy tale version. Just you and her - I did this with Dude when he was younger and it worked WONDERS - and stuck with him. HE never limped around or played with crutches or wheel chairs again. Another thing I did was to take Dude to the Childrens Cancer ward (we took little dollar store gifts) and let him see REAL children with REAL life-threatening diseases, no hair, sick, pale and hooked up to machines, tubes and some so weak they just laid there - THAT made a huge impact on his life. And left a lasting impression. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe something in here will help - and I would PROBABLY take her to the Cancer ward on a day when she had her foot bandaged and hobbled around on borrowed crutches. I bet she'd leave them at the hospital. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 260499, member: 4964"] HOC - I had a friend when I was younger that was a true hypochondriac. IT wore us out completely - we referred to her as an emotional vampire. She literally would drain all of us completely dry. At first (as a young girl) I thought her husband of 6 years was a cruel and uncaring man. Of course we all gave her sympathy for THAT. Then she would get us to do little things like bring her something to eat, vacuum her house, watch her son. At first you think - "I am really doing a good deed." eventually you start to avoid people like her like the plague. I came to her aid one day and found her reading a medical encyclopedia with the latest "ailment" she had. I was furious. I was trying to understand just what she was doing. None of it made sense. WE ended up parting ways - after I got married to my x (she introduced us so that should have been my first clue she was nuts) My thoughts with a child doing the same thing are to have her get a complete physical with blood draws, rectal exam, eye exam, hearing exam - the works as they say. Get all the results back and make the physician sign something that says she does check out to be in A-ok shape. Not to say something could not go wrong later - but at least for now you know there is nothing to complain about. I don't know if it's a medical curiosity - where kids are fascinated with blood and bandaids and bandages OR if it's more basic in attention seeking behaviors or a combination of both. There is of course a cure for hypochondriacs and most that are true hypos will tell you they ARE doing it for attention but don't know how to stop. Congnitive behavior therapy can be very helpful if she is diagnosis with this as a disease. If not - why not concoct some "cure all" of applecider vinegar, a tablespoon of garlic juice, some honey and keep in in a bottle. THe next time she complains of a fictitious ailment - give her a dose of that or something else like Castor oil and let her system "purge" the illness. I think mostly our kids just want our time. THey want our attention and in a multiple sibling home she may feel she's not getting her share of equal time so puts on the bandages and limps around to gain the sympathy of her friends or to get out of class a little early to have someone carry her books or just be "special" for the day. I would also take a moment and read her the story of the boy that cried wolf - the real fairy tale version. Just you and her - I did this with Dude when he was younger and it worked WONDERS - and stuck with him. HE never limped around or played with crutches or wheel chairs again. Another thing I did was to take Dude to the Childrens Cancer ward (we took little dollar store gifts) and let him see REAL children with REAL life-threatening diseases, no hair, sick, pale and hooked up to machines, tubes and some so weak they just laid there - THAT made a huge impact on his life. And left a lasting impression. Maybe something in here will help - and I would PROBABLY take her to the Cancer ward on a day when she had her foot bandaged and hobbled around on borrowed crutches. I bet she'd leave them at the hospital. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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