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<blockquote data-quote="DaveS903" data-source="post: 229984" data-attributes="member: 6571"><p>Thanks for explaining neuropsychologist. We also did some online reading and we are going to get him an evaluation. We are considering a longer term residential treatment center if we can find one we can afford. Maybe he can to figure out life in a highly structured environment with the help of a trained staff. The neuropsychologist evaluation needs to come first though so we can have the info we need to make a good decision.</p><p> </p><p>He has some good moments but lately those moments seem like they only come when he is doing exactly what he wants to do. It is very difficut to get him to do chores or follow directions if they are counter to what he wants. To get what he wants he ether argues until he shuts down in furious silence or goes off yelling/stomping/slamming doors. Lately his favorite phrase about why he has to do something or not do something seems to be "that's retarded." Sometimes he tries to make a deal...but he rarely follows through on keeping his end (does it halfway, he's too tired, the work is too hard, his legs hurt, his back hurts, doesn't want to, etc.). When we stand our ground and he doesn't get his way, he starts ratcheting up. For instance, yesterday on the way home from church he wanted to go to a friend's house. We do not like the kid (think of Eddie Haskell and you will have the right idea) and do not like what goes on in the home so we said no but his friend could come to our house. My wife also told him we had a lot of stuff to do to get ready for a game night with my her mother and some family friends and that he had chores to take care of. He started arguing while she tried explaining why we said no. He got louder and more animated and was heading for a meltdown so we told him to go do what he wanted and if he screwed up and got in trouble too bad, so sad.</p><p> </p><p>As far as school, he is in Special Education and passes most of his classes by a point or two but the days of us battling him over doing homework or helping him do makeup work are over. Intellectually and emotionally he is about 9 or 10. On the rare occasionas he brings homework home, he will only do it if we help him. If we try to explain something that varies in any way from what his teachers say he get angry and frustrated. We encourage him to do his work but he gets bent out of shape if we remind him of it so it is his choice to bring work home and either do it or not - another one of those too bad, so sad situations.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaveS903, post: 229984, member: 6571"] Thanks for explaining neuropsychologist. We also did some online reading and we are going to get him an evaluation. We are considering a longer term residential treatment center if we can find one we can afford. Maybe he can to figure out life in a highly structured environment with the help of a trained staff. The neuropsychologist evaluation needs to come first though so we can have the info we need to make a good decision. He has some good moments but lately those moments seem like they only come when he is doing exactly what he wants to do. It is very difficut to get him to do chores or follow directions if they are counter to what he wants. To get what he wants he ether argues until he shuts down in furious silence or goes off yelling/stomping/slamming doors. Lately his favorite phrase about why he has to do something or not do something seems to be "that's retarded." Sometimes he tries to make a deal...but he rarely follows through on keeping his end (does it halfway, he's too tired, the work is too hard, his legs hurt, his back hurts, doesn't want to, etc.). When we stand our ground and he doesn't get his way, he starts ratcheting up. For instance, yesterday on the way home from church he wanted to go to a friend's house. We do not like the kid (think of Eddie Haskell and you will have the right idea) and do not like what goes on in the home so we said no but his friend could come to our house. My wife also told him we had a lot of stuff to do to get ready for a game night with my her mother and some family friends and that he had chores to take care of. He started arguing while she tried explaining why we said no. He got louder and more animated and was heading for a meltdown so we told him to go do what he wanted and if he screwed up and got in trouble too bad, so sad. As far as school, he is in Special Education and passes most of his classes by a point or two but the days of us battling him over doing homework or helping him do makeup work are over. Intellectually and emotionally he is about 9 or 10. On the rare occasionas he brings homework home, he will only do it if we help him. If we try to explain something that varies in any way from what his teachers say he get angry and frustrated. We encourage him to do his work but he gets bent out of shape if we remind him of it so it is his choice to bring work home and either do it or not - another one of those too bad, so sad situations. [/QUOTE]
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