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<blockquote data-quote="ML" data-source="post: 248361"><p>I have come to believe that in an effort to "pick my battles" I have let manster slide on too much. I've allowed his meltdowns to have too much power and subsequently I haven't pushed him enough to do the things he isn't comfortable with. I've been getting better and tonight I feel like I won some kind of victory. His friend R had plans with family tonight and couldn't go with us to swimming lessons. In the past I've allowed him to skip when this has happened when they used to do Taekwando together. So as I held my ground and was called names that escalated from "meanie" to words that I'd get censored for, I visualized headphones as was mentioned from a fellow wise warrior. I know he was scared and that he had worked himself up into hysteria but that part of it was a control issue. He has been to swimming several times, does know the kids despite his pleas that he doesn't know anyone. I did not allow myself to rescue him from his discomfort.</p><p></p><p>We made it to the pool and he was fine and had a great lesson as I knew he would. My prayer is that the longer I turn a deaf ear to his meltdowns (unless of course it's for a more valid reason) the less he will use them to manipulate me. Please G-d let it ge so.</p><p></p><p>I have made so many parenting mistakes over the years and know I'll make more. But just for tonight it feels good to know I did my job as a parent and get to join the mean moms club (which means I'm doing my job).</p><p></p><p>Thanks for reading.</p><p></p><p>ML</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ML, post: 248361"] I have come to believe that in an effort to "pick my battles" I have let manster slide on too much. I've allowed his meltdowns to have too much power and subsequently I haven't pushed him enough to do the things he isn't comfortable with. I've been getting better and tonight I feel like I won some kind of victory. His friend R had plans with family tonight and couldn't go with us to swimming lessons. In the past I've allowed him to skip when this has happened when they used to do Taekwando together. So as I held my ground and was called names that escalated from "meanie" to words that I'd get censored for, I visualized headphones as was mentioned from a fellow wise warrior. I know he was scared and that he had worked himself up into hysteria but that part of it was a control issue. He has been to swimming several times, does know the kids despite his pleas that he doesn't know anyone. I did not allow myself to rescue him from his discomfort. We made it to the pool and he was fine and had a great lesson as I knew he would. My prayer is that the longer I turn a deaf ear to his meltdowns (unless of course it's for a more valid reason) the less he will use them to manipulate me. Please G-d let it ge so. I have made so many parenting mistakes over the years and know I'll make more. But just for tonight it feels good to know I did my job as a parent and get to join the mean moms club (which means I'm doing my job). Thanks for reading. ML [/QUOTE]
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