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I am having a hard time with this (daughter in jail)
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 212858" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Technically, you and your husband are the victims and should be able to contact the DA. However, if you call as the parent, you're not going to be able to get through the secretary. DAs are incredibly hard to get ahold of in general. They're either in court, in meetings or on the phone. They really are understaffed and underpaid. It may be that you won't be able to talk to him until minutes before the hearing. That is pretty common.</p><p> </p><p>You might try calling the office and simply state you are the victim in case number 123, Mr. Y is the DA handling this case and you plan to drop the charges. That might get you through to him if he's around.</p><p> </p><p>On your side is that you have a judge who actually listened to you as the parent. The odds are good that he will listen when you go in there with a plan on Thursday even if you haven't reached the DA by that time. I know that when I was working at a GAL (for both family and criminal courts), I would hope for certain judges because they actually did listen to everyone, not just the DA. You have one of those of judges.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure how a CO can take her personal funds. That just doesn't seem right to me and I'd be doing some checking on that one. Solitaire might be a good place for her. She'll be less able to fight and mouth off. She'll still be fed and housed. She'll be bored to death.</p><p> </p><p>I wish there was a way to relieve your pain but there isn't. I know your daughter is presently unmedicated and out of control but this may be a lesson that she needs to learn -- either be willing to take the necessary medications or learn how to control yourself or suffer some serious consequences. Nothing you have tried has been able to teach her this lesson. I hope when this is over, it will. As hard and painful as this is, do remember that you had some very good reasons to have her stay in jail. While it is never where we would want our children, sometimes it is still safer than being on the streets and running wild.</p><p> </p><p>I hope you can make it through the visit today without too much more pain. Just keep reminding yourself that you are doing the right thing for her. You have a good plan in place for her when she is released and, for now, she can't run.</p><p> </p><p>Many hugs. Be strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 212858, member: 3626"] Technically, you and your husband are the victims and should be able to contact the DA. However, if you call as the parent, you're not going to be able to get through the secretary. DAs are incredibly hard to get ahold of in general. They're either in court, in meetings or on the phone. They really are understaffed and underpaid. It may be that you won't be able to talk to him until minutes before the hearing. That is pretty common. You might try calling the office and simply state you are the victim in case number 123, Mr. Y is the DA handling this case and you plan to drop the charges. That might get you through to him if he's around. On your side is that you have a judge who actually listened to you as the parent. The odds are good that he will listen when you go in there with a plan on Thursday even if you haven't reached the DA by that time. I know that when I was working at a GAL (for both family and criminal courts), I would hope for certain judges because they actually did listen to everyone, not just the DA. You have one of those of judges. I'm not sure how a CO can take her personal funds. That just doesn't seem right to me and I'd be doing some checking on that one. Solitaire might be a good place for her. She'll be less able to fight and mouth off. She'll still be fed and housed. She'll be bored to death. I wish there was a way to relieve your pain but there isn't. I know your daughter is presently unmedicated and out of control but this may be a lesson that she needs to learn -- either be willing to take the necessary medications or learn how to control yourself or suffer some serious consequences. Nothing you have tried has been able to teach her this lesson. I hope when this is over, it will. As hard and painful as this is, do remember that you had some very good reasons to have her stay in jail. While it is never where we would want our children, sometimes it is still safer than being on the streets and running wild. I hope you can make it through the visit today without too much more pain. Just keep reminding yourself that you are doing the right thing for her. You have a good plan in place for her when she is released and, for now, she can't run. Many hugs. Be strong. [/QUOTE]
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