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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 309239" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry it was so terrible!!! The birth of a child is supposed to be a wonderful time of sharing and celebration and family togetherness. SOME moods are expected from the mother just because the physical strain and hormones, but this is way beyond that.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter in law is way overboard. She is just plain mean and stupid.</p><p></p><p>I cannot IMAGINE having someone in my home and not offering them food. When we have a repairman or even a tow truck driver to the house I offer them a drink and/or snack. heck, the year my parents redid their kitchen we had the construction crew and their families over for dinner a time or two!</p><p></p><p>Letting a two year old cuss out a grandparent is just beyond belief. I would have had a COW at any of my kids who DARED to try that!!!! They would be lucky to see 3.</p><p></p><p>Does Jamie call you a lot from work to talk about his day etc??? I wonder if he isn't bringing home talk of Momma and DILpickle getting jealous. Stupid of the ignorant cow, but it may be the case.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion you need to have a frank talk with jamie. Let him know that she didn't even offer food but she ate in front of you. Tell him how upset you were that your beloved granddau treated you this way, that his wife, who you try your best to include in things, seemed to encourage Hailie to treat you poorly.</p><p></p><p>Let him know how hurt you are. Let him know, now, that you do not feel welcome at his home and do not want to be there unless things change. Tell him you are sorry his marriage is not going well (cause how can it be? Honestly, can he really be happy?) but that you do not choose to be punished by his wife and child for any reason.</p><p></p><p>Then tell him that there will be no nuggets at your home. If he brings them they can stay at a motel or go home. That if Hailie behaves that way in your home she WILL have consequences because you will NOT be treated poorly or disrespectfully in your own home. You raised your kids better and you are done with that kind of treatment.</p><p></p><p>You and Tony need to decide if you want to have them come for Thanksgiving. You may actually decide you don't want them to come unless things change. It is OK to say that, esp when behavior is this over the top rude. </p><p></p><p>IF you decide not to have them for the holiday you need to speak with the other kids. Get their input and then make a decision. You and Tony need to tell Jamie together.</p><p></p><p>I am so glad you have Keyana. Her mom seems to be doing a good job, she is a loving and sweet child who is delighted to spend time with you.</p><p></p><p>Focus on her. Give Jamie some time and distance to decide what he wants. THen find a way to cope with it. Just because Jamie chose her for a bride doesn't mean you have to love her, like her, agree with her, or spend time with her. It hurts, but in the long run Jamie will be better off if you tell him openly that you won't be treated that way. He may not know what happened, and he may need you to start this discussion. Once you start it you may find he is at his wit's end because he doesn't know how to change it or get out with-o losing his daughter.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry it was awful. Remember, DILpickle has some crunch but YOU don't have to tolerate her.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Lots of gentle hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 309239, member: 1233"] I am so sorry it was so terrible!!! The birth of a child is supposed to be a wonderful time of sharing and celebration and family togetherness. SOME moods are expected from the mother just because the physical strain and hormones, but this is way beyond that. Your daughter in law is way overboard. She is just plain mean and stupid. I cannot IMAGINE having someone in my home and not offering them food. When we have a repairman or even a tow truck driver to the house I offer them a drink and/or snack. heck, the year my parents redid their kitchen we had the construction crew and their families over for dinner a time or two! Letting a two year old cuss out a grandparent is just beyond belief. I would have had a COW at any of my kids who DARED to try that!!!! They would be lucky to see 3. Does Jamie call you a lot from work to talk about his day etc??? I wonder if he isn't bringing home talk of Momma and DILpickle getting jealous. Stupid of the ignorant cow, but it may be the case. in my opinion you need to have a frank talk with jamie. Let him know that she didn't even offer food but she ate in front of you. Tell him how upset you were that your beloved granddau treated you this way, that his wife, who you try your best to include in things, seemed to encourage Hailie to treat you poorly. Let him know how hurt you are. Let him know, now, that you do not feel welcome at his home and do not want to be there unless things change. Tell him you are sorry his marriage is not going well (cause how can it be? Honestly, can he really be happy?) but that you do not choose to be punished by his wife and child for any reason. Then tell him that there will be no nuggets at your home. If he brings them they can stay at a motel or go home. That if Hailie behaves that way in your home she WILL have consequences because you will NOT be treated poorly or disrespectfully in your own home. You raised your kids better and you are done with that kind of treatment. You and Tony need to decide if you want to have them come for Thanksgiving. You may actually decide you don't want them to come unless things change. It is OK to say that, esp when behavior is this over the top rude. IF you decide not to have them for the holiday you need to speak with the other kids. Get their input and then make a decision. You and Tony need to tell Jamie together. I am so glad you have Keyana. Her mom seems to be doing a good job, she is a loving and sweet child who is delighted to spend time with you. Focus on her. Give Jamie some time and distance to decide what he wants. THen find a way to cope with it. Just because Jamie chose her for a bride doesn't mean you have to love her, like her, agree with her, or spend time with her. It hurts, but in the long run Jamie will be better off if you tell him openly that you won't be treated that way. He may not know what happened, and he may need you to start this discussion. Once you start it you may find he is at his wit's end because he doesn't know how to change it or get out with-o losing his daughter. I am so sorry it was awful. Remember, DILpickle has some crunch but YOU don't have to tolerate her. Lots of gentle hugs. [/QUOTE]
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