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<blockquote data-quote="barneysmom" data-source="post: 570149" data-attributes="member: 1872"><p>ksm</p><p></p><p>Sounds like you are doing a really good job with her.</p><p></p><p>i got some really good advice that all I can do is hold the line (with natural consequences) and pick my battles. But mostly to hold the line no matter how hard it is. And not to expect anything back. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child#2 never tells a straight story. I get quickly drained having to listen so closely to what he says because there is always some trick or loophole. I force myself, though, or I will get burned.</p><p></p><p>Keep doing what you're doing. It is a thankless job but there is no one else to do it for her. My kids are adopted and I tell them that I am not your bio-mom but this is my house and I will follow my conscience and enforce my rules. One of my frequently-used comments is "You make your choice, and then I'll make mine."</p><p></p><p>you're doing good. You MUST take care of yourself. I try not to take hurtful, demoralizing remarks personally, and go into robot mode internally.</p><p></p><p>My experience has taught me not to show any of my hurt feelings, shock, rage etc etc etc even though I like to be open with my kids -- they perceive this as they are "winning," and then ramp it up even more.</p><p></p><p>Avoiding her is not a bad idea once you have got the basics down. I did this for almost thee months with #2. He didn't miss me, nor I him.</p><p></p><p>Just my experience.</p><p></p><p>Jo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="barneysmom, post: 570149, member: 1872"] ksm Sounds like you are doing a really good job with her. i got some really good advice that all I can do is hold the line (with natural consequences) and pick my battles. But mostly to hold the line no matter how hard it is. And not to expect anything back. My difficult child#2 never tells a straight story. I get quickly drained having to listen so closely to what he says because there is always some trick or loophole. I force myself, though, or I will get burned. Keep doing what you're doing. It is a thankless job but there is no one else to do it for her. My kids are adopted and I tell them that I am not your bio-mom but this is my house and I will follow my conscience and enforce my rules. One of my frequently-used comments is "You make your choice, and then I'll make mine." you're doing good. You MUST take care of yourself. I try not to take hurtful, demoralizing remarks personally, and go into robot mode internally. My experience has taught me not to show any of my hurt feelings, shock, rage etc etc etc even though I like to be open with my kids -- they perceive this as they are "winning," and then ramp it up even more. Avoiding her is not a bad idea once you have got the basics down. I did this for almost thee months with #2. He didn't miss me, nor I him. Just my experience. Jo [/QUOTE]
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