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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 570165" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>thanks, Buddy and Barney's mom. It is just so hard... and a little different from regular adoption... I was her grandma and she adored me and I her. Now I can't be the grandma, someone has to be a parent, and the dynamics have all changed. I am now the authority figure, and she hates authority. With her little sis, it is different... I feel like the "mom" and things are so much better with her. I can enjoy spending time with her. But time with difficult child is more stressful than anticipating a root canal. Hope we make it thru the holiday break.</p><p></p><p>Right now she wants to "date" and she is only 14 and not a mature 14. She is too embarassed to have a boy stop by the house... or have us around in anyway. easy child (age 12) had a "boyfriend" for a couple weeks earlier in the school year who lives a couple blocks from us, and she was OK with him coming over and playing wii, or hanging out on the block. While difficult child was out of the house last night, easy child related that difficult child likes to "brag" about her friends who are into drugs or in trouble. I know that many of the kids who she knows at school are good kids - she tends to gravitate to the problem ones. I can talk to her til I am blue in the face and she will still try to do what she wants. </p><p></p><p>I know I need to tough it out... 3 years, 3 months... then I guess she can do what she wants as long as she is not living here. I really think she has the personality type (and mental issues) that her biomom suffers from... even if not officially diagnosed. We did get the kids off state insurance and on to our BCBS policy, so I am hoping that we won't have the previous issues of getting denials every time tests were wanted to be run. KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 570165, member: 12511"] thanks, Buddy and Barney's mom. It is just so hard... and a little different from regular adoption... I was her grandma and she adored me and I her. Now I can't be the grandma, someone has to be a parent, and the dynamics have all changed. I am now the authority figure, and she hates authority. With her little sis, it is different... I feel like the "mom" and things are so much better with her. I can enjoy spending time with her. But time with difficult child is more stressful than anticipating a root canal. Hope we make it thru the holiday break. Right now she wants to "date" and she is only 14 and not a mature 14. She is too embarassed to have a boy stop by the house... or have us around in anyway. easy child (age 12) had a "boyfriend" for a couple weeks earlier in the school year who lives a couple blocks from us, and she was OK with him coming over and playing wii, or hanging out on the block. While difficult child was out of the house last night, easy child related that difficult child likes to "brag" about her friends who are into drugs or in trouble. I know that many of the kids who she knows at school are good kids - she tends to gravitate to the problem ones. I can talk to her til I am blue in the face and she will still try to do what she wants. I know I need to tough it out... 3 years, 3 months... then I guess she can do what she wants as long as she is not living here. I really think she has the personality type (and mental issues) that her biomom suffers from... even if not officially diagnosed. We did get the kids off state insurance and on to our BCBS policy, so I am hoping that we won't have the previous issues of getting denials every time tests were wanted to be run. KSM [/QUOTE]
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