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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 393557"><p>My experience with the court system both via my difficult child and my job is that yes our justice system is screwed up but it is the only system we have.... and there are good cops and bad cops just like any other profession. I think the court system can work but you need to know how to work it. I would never recommend dealing with the court system without an attorney and I also agree a court appointed attorney or public defender is not the way to go if at all possible. They are not paid much and do not have the same motivation to work for you as a private attorney does.</p><p></p><p>So the way I see it the court system may have been our saving grace. Now of course it may not be if our son comes out of rehab and screws up again because he will end up in jail..... but it got him willing to go to rehab because he really hated jail. He needed to land in jail to see where his decisions were taking him. Now if we had not had a lawyer who was willing to work with the da and the judge to craft a good plea bargain my son could be up a creek. That is one of the unfortunate things about our system, if you can't afford a lawyer and don't have family support you are in a much worse position. Which is why we eventually decided to get and pay for a lawyer for our son. The consequences were too long term for us to ignore... at least this time.</p><p></p><p>What I like is that now the court system has the heavy hammer and consequences and so when I talk to him I can talk about what will happen if he doesn't do something and it will not be something I have to imipose. That has more meaning to him at this point than anything I say or do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 393557"] My experience with the court system both via my difficult child and my job is that yes our justice system is screwed up but it is the only system we have.... and there are good cops and bad cops just like any other profession. I think the court system can work but you need to know how to work it. I would never recommend dealing with the court system without an attorney and I also agree a court appointed attorney or public defender is not the way to go if at all possible. They are not paid much and do not have the same motivation to work for you as a private attorney does. So the way I see it the court system may have been our saving grace. Now of course it may not be if our son comes out of rehab and screws up again because he will end up in jail..... but it got him willing to go to rehab because he really hated jail. He needed to land in jail to see where his decisions were taking him. Now if we had not had a lawyer who was willing to work with the da and the judge to craft a good plea bargain my son could be up a creek. That is one of the unfortunate things about our system, if you can't afford a lawyer and don't have family support you are in a much worse position. Which is why we eventually decided to get and pay for a lawyer for our son. The consequences were too long term for us to ignore... at least this time. What I like is that now the court system has the heavy hammer and consequences and so when I talk to him I can talk about what will happen if he doesn't do something and it will not be something I have to imipose. That has more meaning to him at this point than anything I say or do. [/QUOTE]
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