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Tinytot2005
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Hello i am new here and have 2 beautiful children one is 5 1/2 and one is 4 1/2. They both are on the Autism spectrum but my son Is Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). I think he has other issues going on and i want to help him and took so much advice from doctors, therapists you name it read books etc but nothing is working. He seems to get a rise out of others and enjoys it very much. I stopped getting upset and ignoring it but now he chooses to ignore me all the time if he is angry with me. He will squint his eyes and he does this with his teachers and turns his head when you walk in the room on purpose to ignore you if he is angry iwth you. He cant be told, he is always right. He is very social but doesnt know how to interact at his age level, and he has perfect eye contact. He doesnt have many sensory issues and actually isnt getting much Occupational Therapist (OT) only in school he gets it for fine motor. He does recieve speech therapy and has a behavioral therapist. The school he is in just thinks he is cute and gives in to him and the behavioral therapists see that too. When i approach the school about this they say they cant do anything because school needs to be a happy place. I agree with school being a happy place all i ask of them is to not give him much attention when i tell them he is being defiant towards me or towards them. He is oppositional and now and is to his sister, which i know it is normal for siblings to fight but he seems a little obsessive with being in control and upsetting his sister. His sister is starting to become a lot more verbal and she wants to interact with him but he chooses to stimulant off the wall and ignore her. If a friend came over he would try to play with them an ignore his sister. She cries and lays there upset and he keeps on doing his own thing. He likes to see my reaction too when i ask him to go play with her he is realizing it is bothering me too cause he goes back to ignoring me or looking right at me and doing his own thing. The thing is she may not realize this as she gets upset with me when i put him in time-out and tells me he is sad. I cant help that sometimes he needs to be by himself and she sticks up for him which i think is awesome for her to be doing but doesnt help teach him. Quite frankly he doesnt get anyhting out of time-out but a consequence and he enjoys it. He is a control freak and i wish i could help him. I ignore him but then he keeps on ignoring me i detach myself from the situation and it keeps going on. No doctors want to help him no behavioral specialist help him everyone excuses everyhting he does.