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I am new here, and at my wits end with 16 year old NonVerbal Learning Disorder (NVLD) daughter
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 400437" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Is there a chance she's got Asperger's? because she sure sounds familiar to me!</p><p></p><p>With the video, if she is legally old enough to watch it, I would let this one go but make rules - she MUST ensure her younger sisters do not get to watch it. She is olde enough to enjoy the freedoms of someone her age, but along with those freedoms come responsibilities. It is AGAINST THE LAW to make such stuff available to under-age kids. OK it doesn't matter tat the girls could watch the same videos at a friend's place. That is the legal responsiblity of the friends' family, not yours. So your older daughter should be able to watch her video, but not if her sisters are in the room. Any breach in that rule, and the video must leave the house.</p><p></p><p>We had the same rule for our kids - difficult child 1 wanted M-rated computer games when he was old enough, but was told he could only play them when difficult child 3 was out of earshot and out of the room. Failure to comply means parents are legally justified in imposing a ban, until the 'mature person' can demonstrate sufficient maturity and responsibility to follow through.</p><p></p><p>it's the law. It's not you being mean. You're just obeying the law and requiring her to do so.</p><p></p><p>The eldest is always a problem - they're the trailblazer, the one who is first to insist on adult freedoms. It is the beginning of the need for consistency across the family, you make your rules with your eldest. So think carefully and make rules you can enforce, and rules which are reasonable and natural, with natural consequences rather than parental punishments.</p><p></p><p>Eating in her room - the natural consequences here would be an ant plague. It is her responsibility to ensure no food scraps remain in her room. My girls broke tis rule, bought bulk jellybeans and thought they had them in a sufficiently ant-proof container. it was not. Natural consequences - I made them clean the ants out of their room.</p><p></p><p>The lying about it - please read the thread on Asperger's and lying. It will save me repeating myself!</p><p></p><p>Again - the type of lie you describe is screaming "Asperger's!" at me...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 400437, member: 1991"] Is there a chance she's got Asperger's? because she sure sounds familiar to me! With the video, if she is legally old enough to watch it, I would let this one go but make rules - she MUST ensure her younger sisters do not get to watch it. She is olde enough to enjoy the freedoms of someone her age, but along with those freedoms come responsibilities. It is AGAINST THE LAW to make such stuff available to under-age kids. OK it doesn't matter tat the girls could watch the same videos at a friend's place. That is the legal responsiblity of the friends' family, not yours. So your older daughter should be able to watch her video, but not if her sisters are in the room. Any breach in that rule, and the video must leave the house. We had the same rule for our kids - difficult child 1 wanted M-rated computer games when he was old enough, but was told he could only play them when difficult child 3 was out of earshot and out of the room. Failure to comply means parents are legally justified in imposing a ban, until the 'mature person' can demonstrate sufficient maturity and responsibility to follow through. it's the law. It's not you being mean. You're just obeying the law and requiring her to do so. The eldest is always a problem - they're the trailblazer, the one who is first to insist on adult freedoms. It is the beginning of the need for consistency across the family, you make your rules with your eldest. So think carefully and make rules you can enforce, and rules which are reasonable and natural, with natural consequences rather than parental punishments. Eating in her room - the natural consequences here would be an ant plague. It is her responsibility to ensure no food scraps remain in her room. My girls broke tis rule, bought bulk jellybeans and thought they had them in a sufficiently ant-proof container. it was not. Natural consequences - I made them clean the ants out of their room. The lying about it - please read the thread on Asperger's and lying. It will save me repeating myself! Again - the type of lie you describe is screaming "Asperger's!" at me... Marg [/QUOTE]
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