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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 370163" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>ifb... Just curious about something. How long have you been divorced? If you are fighting over the house - that may have a bearing on B's problems.</p><p> </p><p>You see - and this is a major shot in the dark - but - husband and BM (kids BioMom) have an ongoing, raging battle over the kids and anything related to them. So many things have happened, so much has been said, that I know it has had an adverse impact on the kids. husband has full custody now, but until he got that far I watched him struggle NOT to say anything negative about BM, to NOT involve the kids, while she told them all sorts of things about him and I, threatened both of us and witnesses, has refused to pay ordered support, and has alienated Onyxx to the point where she refuses to visit and I am SURE that has a lot of bearing on Onyxx's behavior toward ME.</p><p> </p><p>SO, what I am trying to say through all of that, is - if your divorce is particularly nasty, the conflict may exacerbate B's already existing issues. Honestly? I consider myself a pretty "normal" person, good kid, easy child. But I can turn into a raging difficult child when things around me are stressful. ...And just because I know it, doesn't help me STOP it - but the coping mechanisms I've learned do.</p><p> </p><p>Usually...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 370163, member: 6705"] ifb... Just curious about something. How long have you been divorced? If you are fighting over the house - that may have a bearing on B's problems. You see - and this is a major shot in the dark - but - husband and BM (kids BioMom) have an ongoing, raging battle over the kids and anything related to them. So many things have happened, so much has been said, that I know it has had an adverse impact on the kids. husband has full custody now, but until he got that far I watched him struggle NOT to say anything negative about BM, to NOT involve the kids, while she told them all sorts of things about him and I, threatened both of us and witnesses, has refused to pay ordered support, and has alienated Onyxx to the point where she refuses to visit and I am SURE that has a lot of bearing on Onyxx's behavior toward ME. SO, what I am trying to say through all of that, is - if your divorce is particularly nasty, the conflict may exacerbate B's already existing issues. Honestly? I consider myself a pretty "normal" person, good kid, easy child. But I can turn into a raging difficult child when things around me are stressful. ...And just because I know it, doesn't help me STOP it - but the coping mechanisms I've learned do. Usually... [/QUOTE]
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