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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 100292" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>It is really really hard with these kids and step parents. I think, a lot of times, the child senses the lack of deep paternal bond the step father has, and they inherently feel rejected. The child then does everything in their power to try and get the step father to outwardly reject them. It is like they cannot stand "the feeling", so they try and bring it into a more tangible reality, and force this feeling to be reckoned with.</p><p></p><p>In all honesty, and what most step parents have a hard time with, is loving them through this process, and telling them that they indeed are there to stay, and that no matter what, they are not going to leave them. Especially men (no offensive to any males out there), seem to have a hard time expressing their unconditional love, when a child is acting out.</p><p></p><p>Just some food for thought. I have been there done that, and I think it is harder for our kids than we realize.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 100292, member: 3301"] It is really really hard with these kids and step parents. I think, a lot of times, the child senses the lack of deep paternal bond the step father has, and they inherently feel rejected. The child then does everything in their power to try and get the step father to outwardly reject them. It is like they cannot stand "the feeling", so they try and bring it into a more tangible reality, and force this feeling to be reckoned with. In all honesty, and what most step parents have a hard time with, is loving them through this process, and telling them that they indeed are there to stay, and that no matter what, they are not going to leave them. Especially men (no offensive to any males out there), seem to have a hard time expressing their unconditional love, when a child is acting out. Just some food for thought. I have been there done that, and I think it is harder for our kids than we realize. [/QUOTE]
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