Sorry guys for my delayed response - I just got time to read everyone's responses. And they are awesome! You all are a mega load of strength! Thank you!
I could not agree more. I want nothing more to do with him, and I am super glad I found out this early in the game that he was such a heel, before I really fell for him. The stupidly eerie thing is that my ex was like this - and the minute I saw this guy he reminded me of my ex - and low and behold - I was right on the money.
The SUPER big bummer is that he is my next door neighbor. We share a wall in the freaking townhome I lease. So it is not as easy as just "never seeing him again", I am going to have to switch the entire relationship, from intimate, to "neighbor". Grrrrr..............I am really, really annoyed by this fact. I came out to AZ to enjoy the beauty and scenery. The moon and the stars. All of which I can see from my backyard - and he is distorting my peace and serenity.
I drove up to my house tonight, and there he was, in his front yard. BLAH.
The other BIG bummer, is that we both shared a love for the out of doors, and he was starting to take me on hikes and to do all the great things AZ offers. Now I am back on my own to discover those. But maybe that is how it should be.
I know, that in reality, I am not ready for a relationship. I need to work on healing, and on my self esteem, before "dating". This neighbor thing just "sorta" happened. Maybe my lack of self esteem caused him to look for my weaknesses. Probably. It is just not a good thing.
Should I talk to him about this and set things straight?
I just wish he was not my neighbor. Good grief. Oddly. My ex, the one this guy reminds me of, was my neighbor. And he called me fat after we got married. And he told me he was not attracted to me and would not have sex with me until I lost weight. I was at that time 140lbs. After those repetitive remarks I ballooned to 170 lbs. Once I moved out here, I lost a lot of weight - and yet the "neighbor" still thinks I am fat and could never be attracted to me.? How serendipitous can life get?
And, oh by the way - he would NEVER pass the Speedo test - and I did
indeed tell him that.
"Oh my, and yes,
you are one to talk! You and your
BIG package".
Not.
And yes, if he is ever rude to me again, I will most certainly sit on him.