We just can't afford all the testing that we need to get done. NO one can lend us any money. My daughter is out of control. If she doesn't get what she wants when she wants how she wants she flys into a screaming fit, hitting and kicking. I don't know what to do anymore. Either we let her tell us what to do. Or we keep taking away toys and privledges and keep hoping that some day it will kick in. I know that's not the answer either. We have another baby on the way and I'm scared. I know this is all my fault for telling my dad's girlfriend to go jump of a cliff. Because of her I could never use any kind of disipline. Because of her PTSD and anxiety she could not have chaos or screaming around her. So I was forced to give my daughter whatever she wanted. Now that I am married and able to have consequences. This is what I am left with. A daughter who no matter what consequence she has she still acts up. Clearly this child needs help but we just can't afford to get her the help she needs. Even though I know she was sick and it was her time to go. I am angry with my mom for leaving me. And I am angry at my dad for getting with and staying with this psychotic woman. Why can't he see what's going on. None of his kids or grand kids want anything to with him anymore. Because none of can stand to be with this woman. I want to work this out. I want my daughter to grow up happy. I just don't what to do anymore. We are barely making ends meet as it is. In her testing that we have gotten done we know she has some sensory issues with sound and touch. So we bring ear muffs when we go out and into public toilets with automatic flushers and hand dryers. For her touch issues we cut tags out and she is growing dreadlocks so I don't have to comb her hair. She is very social and loves talking to people. She sometimes gets a little to aggressive with affection. She will hug too long or too hard or just not back off when someone says that's enough. She is getting better with this. So as long as we don't let her get overly stimulated she is okay and respects boundries. It's mostly her explosive behavior we having trouble with. I have read The Explosive Child and I understand her more but still we can't seem to get a grip on her out bursts.