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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 141005" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sorry, one more thing - about Sammy's hand-clapping. I can understand it getting you down. You can try to channel this into something similar but different. Try to figure out what he's getting out of it (is it the feeling of tingling palms? is it the sound? is it the rhythm?) and find another, possibly quieter, way to direct him. Redirecting is better for him and for you, than simply shouting at him (which makes you the obstacle). What about jumping on a trampoline? We had a jogging trampoline for that purpose, it would roll behind a cupboard or door when not in use. It could be used indoors or outdoors.</p><p></p><p>You may have noticed an increase partly because you're looking for it, but perhaps mostly because you're a lot more distracted than before, so he's far less stimulated than before (and needing to distract/occupy himself).</p><p></p><p>I know it takes mental effort to do this and this is more difficult when you're feeling overwhelmed, but success even in something as small a this will reduce your stress in other areas, which increases what you can cope with, etc. This is what I meant about getting active and taking control back - it is how you can begin to shed this feeling of helplessness, of lost control. Seize it back. Take joy in every little thing accomplished. </p><p></p><p>A (female) professor I once worked with said, "If you want a job done well, ask a busy woman."</p><p>Right now Dara, you are eminently qualified!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 141005, member: 1991"] Sorry, one more thing - about Sammy's hand-clapping. I can understand it getting you down. You can try to channel this into something similar but different. Try to figure out what he's getting out of it (is it the feeling of tingling palms? is it the sound? is it the rhythm?) and find another, possibly quieter, way to direct him. Redirecting is better for him and for you, than simply shouting at him (which makes you the obstacle). What about jumping on a trampoline? We had a jogging trampoline for that purpose, it would roll behind a cupboard or door when not in use. It could be used indoors or outdoors. You may have noticed an increase partly because you're looking for it, but perhaps mostly because you're a lot more distracted than before, so he's far less stimulated than before (and needing to distract/occupy himself). I know it takes mental effort to do this and this is more difficult when you're feeling overwhelmed, but success even in something as small a this will reduce your stress in other areas, which increases what you can cope with, etc. This is what I meant about getting active and taking control back - it is how you can begin to shed this feeling of helplessness, of lost control. Seize it back. Take joy in every little thing accomplished. A (female) professor I once worked with said, "If you want a job done well, ask a busy woman." Right now Dara, you are eminently qualified! Marg [/QUOTE]
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