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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 95131" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>That sentence really struck a chord with me because I can see this with my difficult child, now 18. She can admit and recognize that she's still not ready to go off into the world on her own and yet, she is so annoyed AT ME, as if I haven't been trying to train her since forever to be more responsible for her own care!! It's a double edged sword, it really is. You're dam*ed if you and dam*ed if you don't. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/1010hammer.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hammer:" title="hammer :hammer:" data-shortname=":hammer:" /></p><p></p><p>I strongly suggest that you schedule time without her around. I know, I know...it's hard!</p><p></p><p>Have you checked your local stores? Michael's stores offer many arts and crafts classes like knitting, cake decorating, floral design, etc. Also, see if there is a Sur la Table nearby - they have all sorts of cooking classes for kids and teens that she may be interested in.</p><p></p><p>In fact, and I know it's the last thing you want to hear, but they offer a mother/daughter class that I hear is quite fun.</p><p></p><p>When I felt like difficult child was always pulling on me (still do at times) I found that designating "difficult child time" helped a lot. She felt singled out, special that I was scheduling a specific time just for her and seemed to be less annoying to me the rest of the time. She was about your daughter's age at that time. It was hard to find something really, because she hated everything I love so I had to get creative. We visited pet shops (how we wound up with one of our pups), we went to the library, we went to music stores, record stores (yes, I'm a 100), plays. easy child was always easy, enjoying things like manicures and shopping and lunch out.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, sending hugs to you - I know how difficult it can be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 95131, member: 2211"] That sentence really struck a chord with me because I can see this with my difficult child, now 18. She can admit and recognize that she's still not ready to go off into the world on her own and yet, she is so annoyed AT ME, as if I haven't been trying to train her since forever to be more responsible for her own care!! It's a double edged sword, it really is. You're dam*ed if you and dam*ed if you don't. :hammer: I strongly suggest that you schedule time without her around. I know, I know...it's hard! Have you checked your local stores? Michael's stores offer many arts and crafts classes like knitting, cake decorating, floral design, etc. Also, see if there is a Sur la Table nearby - they have all sorts of cooking classes for kids and teens that she may be interested in. In fact, and I know it's the last thing you want to hear, but they offer a mother/daughter class that I hear is quite fun. When I felt like difficult child was always pulling on me (still do at times) I found that designating "difficult child time" helped a lot. She felt singled out, special that I was scheduling a specific time just for her and seemed to be less annoying to me the rest of the time. She was about your daughter's age at that time. It was hard to find something really, because she hated everything I love so I had to get creative. We visited pet shops (how we wound up with one of our pups), we went to the library, we went to music stores, record stores (yes, I'm a 100), plays. easy child was always easy, enjoying things like manicures and shopping and lunch out. Anyway, sending hugs to you - I know how difficult it can be. [/QUOTE]
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