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I am thinking about surprising difficult children with a dog.
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 530935" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Okay - I'm going to offer a compromise.......</p><p></p><p>FOSTER.......find a local shelter.......and offer to be a foster family. </p><p></p><p>This gives you & your kids quite a lot of experiences, options - exposure, and the option to (give it back) should it (not work out) </p><p></p><p>AND I'm not advocating this as a cure all - because it just may be that a dog is NOT an added burden needed. I say that because a cat can be skittish around a difficult child but I can tell you - that I have a 140 lb. American Bulldog and a 70 lb. pit bull that were BOTH skittish from the arguing, yelling, tension and difficult child's constant AGGITATION of - "the beloved family pet". Cats when aggitated will usually - hide. Dogs can hide - but some will BITE -OUR Pit? Bit difficult child in the face twice and now his nose and deviated septum hangs just a little out of the bottom of his nose - a constant reminder we allowed as natural consequences - discussed in depth with our therapist of seven years. </p><p></p><p>On the flip side - if you have a foster dog - and you say "IF YOU PESTER THE DOG ONE MORE TIME I WILL TAKE IT BACK (ie get red of it) - YOU CAN - without much trouble. Explain up front to the shelter that you want to do this to introduce your kids to a dog, help the shelter, but you have to know that when you say "I need to return the dog" it comes back NOW - 24 hour no later. Because difficult child needs to understand there are consequences - without excuses. </p><p></p><p>I'm not trying to make this harder than it is. On the contrary - I think if you wanted to do this - OR start VOLUNTEERING at the kennel close to you on Saturday and see that the kids are serious about taking care of PETS - scooping poop, walking, watering, grooming...all the above - earning money to take care of the needs - (DO A WORKSHEET TO SEE what costs of flea treantment, heartworm treatment, vet treatment, rabies, and upkeep, food - toys ) are for ONE dog for ONE month - and then see what they'd have to do for chores each month. Then come back to you about it - and see if EVERYONE is still serious. </p><p></p><p>I couldnt live without mine - but I'd do without everything I own to be with them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 530935, member: 4964"] Okay - I'm going to offer a compromise....... FOSTER.......find a local shelter.......and offer to be a foster family. This gives you & your kids quite a lot of experiences, options - exposure, and the option to (give it back) should it (not work out) AND I'm not advocating this as a cure all - because it just may be that a dog is NOT an added burden needed. I say that because a cat can be skittish around a difficult child but I can tell you - that I have a 140 lb. American Bulldog and a 70 lb. pit bull that were BOTH skittish from the arguing, yelling, tension and difficult child's constant AGGITATION of - "the beloved family pet". Cats when aggitated will usually - hide. Dogs can hide - but some will BITE -OUR Pit? Bit difficult child in the face twice and now his nose and deviated septum hangs just a little out of the bottom of his nose - a constant reminder we allowed as natural consequences - discussed in depth with our therapist of seven years. On the flip side - if you have a foster dog - and you say "IF YOU PESTER THE DOG ONE MORE TIME I WILL TAKE IT BACK (ie get red of it) - YOU CAN - without much trouble. Explain up front to the shelter that you want to do this to introduce your kids to a dog, help the shelter, but you have to know that when you say "I need to return the dog" it comes back NOW - 24 hour no later. Because difficult child needs to understand there are consequences - without excuses. I'm not trying to make this harder than it is. On the contrary - I think if you wanted to do this - OR start VOLUNTEERING at the kennel close to you on Saturday and see that the kids are serious about taking care of PETS - scooping poop, walking, watering, grooming...all the above - earning money to take care of the needs - (DO A WORKSHEET TO SEE what costs of flea treantment, heartworm treatment, vet treatment, rabies, and upkeep, food - toys ) are for ONE dog for ONE month - and then see what they'd have to do for chores each month. Then come back to you about it - and see if EVERYONE is still serious. I couldnt live without mine - but I'd do without everything I own to be with them. [/QUOTE]
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