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I asked son "What does Autism mean to you?"
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 226598" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm working to get difficult child 3 heading towards a career in IT, especially if I can get something to do with computer games and writing them. Another option is to steer him towards any computer-based photographic work, such as Photoshop or what is to come afterwards. I'm thinking of getting his help next tie I have en editing/layout job to do, to see how he manages it.</p><p></p><p>Our kids have their weak areas but they also have their strengths. I've found that both my boys gravitate to people who are similarly wired, and when these friends get together it's fascinating. The loyalty they have for one another is wonderful. difficult child 3 has good friends in his drama class, as well as good friends who are NT but very bright and much younger than him. In fact, we've just got back from the beach where we met up with a young girl who is NT but borderline genius; her mother came with us and we all sat and talked while the kids played in the water. The girl showed us a spot in the water where the current runs deep and fast, the tide was on the run in and she had found where you can play "Poohsticks" with your body in the current. Swimming against the current was like having your own lap pool, the current was so strong.</p><p></p><p>The sort of kids who discover these things are very much needed in our society, in many different niches. They do not have to be good with other people, as long as they are keen observers and skilled, meticulous recorders of data.</p><p></p><p>Or there's BF2 - he has a job where he pays games all day. OK, he IS in retail, he works in a store where gaming is played, he supervises and moderates the games. School holidays are his busiest times at work, he only gets time off outside school breaks. So he goes to work, and plays Warcraft. Then he comes home, and plays Warcraft to relax. He got the job because he knows the game so well. They love him there because he is so good at knowing the game and also painting figurines (which he loves to do). He buys the figurines wholesale, paints them for the shop. He then claims the cost of the things he buys against tax. He gets the fun of painting them up AND gets a tax discount to do so, because it's work-related.</p><p></p><p>There are always niches somewhere for kids like ours. I got difficult child 1 onto disability as soon as he was old enough, I will do the same for difficult child 3. But there are often a lot of supports aimed at getting our kids into the workforce somewhere, or even into a useful unpaid occupation (for Diversional Therapy purposes).</p><p></p><p>Are there any local autism groups in your area? Or general disability groups? You might find something for him like our drama class. I know there are other disability things in our area, including soccer for young people with disabilities. Or he could join a club for people with similar interests - I know socially he would be nervous of this, but if he gets a chance to share with people stuff on the things he loves (and they love too) then it might help him socially.</p><p></p><p>It's good that he sees himself as "differently wired" rather than flawed. You've done a good job there.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 226598, member: 1991"] I'm working to get difficult child 3 heading towards a career in IT, especially if I can get something to do with computer games and writing them. Another option is to steer him towards any computer-based photographic work, such as Photoshop or what is to come afterwards. I'm thinking of getting his help next tie I have en editing/layout job to do, to see how he manages it. Our kids have their weak areas but they also have their strengths. I've found that both my boys gravitate to people who are similarly wired, and when these friends get together it's fascinating. The loyalty they have for one another is wonderful. difficult child 3 has good friends in his drama class, as well as good friends who are NT but very bright and much younger than him. In fact, we've just got back from the beach where we met up with a young girl who is NT but borderline genius; her mother came with us and we all sat and talked while the kids played in the water. The girl showed us a spot in the water where the current runs deep and fast, the tide was on the run in and she had found where you can play "Poohsticks" with your body in the current. Swimming against the current was like having your own lap pool, the current was so strong. The sort of kids who discover these things are very much needed in our society, in many different niches. They do not have to be good with other people, as long as they are keen observers and skilled, meticulous recorders of data. Or there's BF2 - he has a job where he pays games all day. OK, he IS in retail, he works in a store where gaming is played, he supervises and moderates the games. School holidays are his busiest times at work, he only gets time off outside school breaks. So he goes to work, and plays Warcraft. Then he comes home, and plays Warcraft to relax. He got the job because he knows the game so well. They love him there because he is so good at knowing the game and also painting figurines (which he loves to do). He buys the figurines wholesale, paints them for the shop. He then claims the cost of the things he buys against tax. He gets the fun of painting them up AND gets a tax discount to do so, because it's work-related. There are always niches somewhere for kids like ours. I got difficult child 1 onto disability as soon as he was old enough, I will do the same for difficult child 3. But there are often a lot of supports aimed at getting our kids into the workforce somewhere, or even into a useful unpaid occupation (for Diversional Therapy purposes). Are there any local autism groups in your area? Or general disability groups? You might find something for him like our drama class. I know there are other disability things in our area, including soccer for young people with disabilities. Or he could join a club for people with similar interests - I know socially he would be nervous of this, but if he gets a chance to share with people stuff on the things he loves (and they love too) then it might help him socially. It's good that he sees himself as "differently wired" rather than flawed. You've done a good job there. Marg [/QUOTE]
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