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I bought my kid a tent today, he's homeless.
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 685983" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>What a great post, JMom.I know how <em>this</em> is. It will change little by little, I think. Your son is young. More and more it is accepted that many male brains do not mature until 27 or later. At 27 it began to change for my son: attitude, self-control, cooperation, baby steps towards a goal, one college class for which I am grateful. </p><p></p><p>It is not all glory but it is better. Better than when he was calling the cops on us to get us arrested in our house when we told him to leave. For sure, that.</p><p>How different is this than people who find their purpose serving, doctors, Mother Teresa, pastors, etc.? A purpose is a purpose.</p><p>Now that is gratitude! I am learning this too. It is difficult for me. I seem to have lived a life of denial, holding at bay the reality that I am frail, I will die, and so will those I love. </p><p></p><p>My son has a chronic illness for which he is not treatment compliant, at least in the way that would make me feel less frightened. I find myself being grateful for the way he is improving, which makes me more afraid of his illness. Of losing him. Now, I see this is irrational. The risk of losing him was always the same and the potential devastation the same. But now that I am able to feel more openly my love and need for him, I am so much more afraid. Nearly all of the time I feel anxious.</p><p>I am nowhere near here but I wish for this. The ability to embrace imperfect and fleeting life, with gratitude and acceptance and a sense of well-being instead of dread.</p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 685983, member: 18958"] What a great post, JMom.I know how [I]this[/I] is. It will change little by little, I think. Your son is young. More and more it is accepted that many male brains do not mature until 27 or later. At 27 it began to change for my son: attitude, self-control, cooperation, baby steps towards a goal, one college class for which I am grateful. It is not all glory but it is better. Better than when he was calling the cops on us to get us arrested in our house when we told him to leave. For sure, that. How different is this than people who find their purpose serving, doctors, Mother Teresa, pastors, etc.? A purpose is a purpose. Now that is gratitude! I am learning this too. It is difficult for me. I seem to have lived a life of denial, holding at bay the reality that I am frail, I will die, and so will those I love. My son has a chronic illness for which he is not treatment compliant, at least in the way that would make me feel less frightened. I find myself being grateful for the way he is improving, which makes me more afraid of his illness. Of losing him. Now, I see this is irrational. The risk of losing him was always the same and the potential devastation the same. But now that I am able to feel more openly my love and need for him, I am so much more afraid. Nearly all of the time I feel anxious. I am nowhere near here but I wish for this. The ability to embrace imperfect and fleeting life, with gratitude and acceptance and a sense of well-being instead of dread. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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