Well I hope I wasn't being too optimistic by saying he IS making this transition- it's probably a lot more accurate to say he was asking about these things and I was trying to explain why I'm not taking the same approach that I did when he was 11-13yo and in middle school. Plus, me trying to stop him when he's determined to break the rules only creates more animosity and determination and justification in his mind.
Natural consequences right now- difficult child is sick this morning. Not too bad but I'm trying to nip it in the bud with OTC medications because we have no medication insurance yet. The bad part is between that and him staying in the house has him pretty cranky. I'm not so sure he's going to make it even between now and this appointment with PO next week without violating again. I can see how it would be difficult to live, eat, and sleep (figuratively) with peers 24/7 for over a year, then go straight to an environment where you are only around them at school. However, that was to be temporary and difficult child could have done it. I pray he's gotten some things out of his system- he told me last night that as bad as this sounds, the past week had been the most fun in his life. Besides any possible drug involvement, everything else he would have been allowed to do if he'd just waited. Well- he wouldn't have been able to roam outside in the middle of the night but he could have had or gone to sleep-overs and hung out with friends, etc.