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<blockquote data-quote="HopeRemains" data-source="post: 532664" data-attributes="member: 14139"><p>husband does know how badly difficult child can act and has experienced it all with me- and gets very frustrated sometimes, even though he's more patient than I am. difficult child doesn't discriminate when it comes to having rages. However, husband doesn't get the pleasure of it every single day, alone, while trying to keep easy child from getting the brunt of it. He also can get difficult child to at least go to his room (where he eventually cools off) and isn't fearful that every move he makes is going to be scrutinized. He will never understand that part of it the way that I do, because he doesn't know what it's really like to be raising a child that isn't legally his own. He also doesn't have difficult child stalking him around the house and doing the bullying because he can cut that whole part out by escorting him to his room. So, something that would be over in 15 minutes when husband is here can turn into hours when I am alone. That is what husband doesn't understand. I think that I just explained it better here than I ever have to husband. I wish I didn't need to explain it, that what he sees and hears and my pleading would be enough. </p><p></p><p>You both have given such great advice. I do not think difficult child is bipolar and have questioned it since day one. I am absolutely going to call the Children's Hospital and ask around! I will make sure to ask if they've worked with attachment disorders. I brought up attachment disorder to psychiatrist during her "evaluation" and she said that because I'd never seen him hurt small animals that his behavior wasn't extreme enough to consider it. It was spot on, to me. BioMom was a drug addict and primary care giver when he was a baby (while husband worked long hours-and he did not know she was a drug abuser at that point.) for almost a year. Not to mention she was violent and narcissistic, she has continued to be in and out of difficult child's life when she felt like it for the first 6 years of his life. Now she's regular visits but lies and manipulates him. Poor kid can't catch a break!!! But if that along with his behaviors don't just SCREAM attachment disorder then I don't know what does. </p><p></p><p>In the initial meeting with new therapist, while describing behaviors and his past, offered up that it sounded like attachment issues without me ever having mentioned it. I like this guy so much. He also worked at Boy's Town for 13 yrs... I feel like I caught the big fish in the pond! </p><p></p><p>susie- I love that you grill the doctors! Your child is so lucky to have you fighting for him. I am not quite as aggressive, but that is only because so far I am not armed with the knowledge you are... YET! =) Working on it, though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HopeRemains, post: 532664, member: 14139"] husband does know how badly difficult child can act and has experienced it all with me- and gets very frustrated sometimes, even though he's more patient than I am. difficult child doesn't discriminate when it comes to having rages. However, husband doesn't get the pleasure of it every single day, alone, while trying to keep easy child from getting the brunt of it. He also can get difficult child to at least go to his room (where he eventually cools off) and isn't fearful that every move he makes is going to be scrutinized. He will never understand that part of it the way that I do, because he doesn't know what it's really like to be raising a child that isn't legally his own. He also doesn't have difficult child stalking him around the house and doing the bullying because he can cut that whole part out by escorting him to his room. So, something that would be over in 15 minutes when husband is here can turn into hours when I am alone. That is what husband doesn't understand. I think that I just explained it better here than I ever have to husband. I wish I didn't need to explain it, that what he sees and hears and my pleading would be enough. You both have given such great advice. I do not think difficult child is bipolar and have questioned it since day one. I am absolutely going to call the Children's Hospital and ask around! I will make sure to ask if they've worked with attachment disorders. I brought up attachment disorder to psychiatrist during her "evaluation" and she said that because I'd never seen him hurt small animals that his behavior wasn't extreme enough to consider it. It was spot on, to me. BioMom was a drug addict and primary care giver when he was a baby (while husband worked long hours-and he did not know she was a drug abuser at that point.) for almost a year. Not to mention she was violent and narcissistic, she has continued to be in and out of difficult child's life when she felt like it for the first 6 years of his life. Now she's regular visits but lies and manipulates him. Poor kid can't catch a break!!! But if that along with his behaviors don't just SCREAM attachment disorder then I don't know what does. In the initial meeting with new therapist, while describing behaviors and his past, offered up that it sounded like attachment issues without me ever having mentioned it. I like this guy so much. He also worked at Boy's Town for 13 yrs... I feel like I caught the big fish in the pond! susie- I love that you grill the doctors! Your child is so lucky to have you fighting for him. I am not quite as aggressive, but that is only because so far I am not armed with the knowledge you are... YET! =) Working on it, though. [/QUOTE]
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