TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
difficult child got another demerit.
Yesterday, difficult child forgot his lunch. He called and I told him to buy one or something, and I'd pay the person back. His math and science teacher, Mrs. R, (the difficult one) arranged for a salad to be made for him. She told him (and I had him repeat it to me twice), "Go to the cafeteria. They'll have a salad waiting for you. X will be your escort.")
X is a kid the same age or a bit older. They walk to the cafeteria. X's job is done. He takes off for the playground.
difficult child stands there by himself, sees 4 women working at the window, doesn't know which one is Mrs. A, is afraid to approach them, doesn't see a salad anywhere, gets anxious, and takes off the for playground.
Mrs. R is livid. She writes him up.
I had to sign the note, so I explained to difficult child why she was offended. I'm not sure he got it--all he was interested in was his point of view. I explained to him the he needed to go up to the window and talk to one of the women. He could have asked for Mrs. A and they would have found her.
I can see Mrs. R's point of view. difficult child has done that to me b4--demanded a certain meal b4 he starves to death, and then, upon seeing it isn't exactly what he envisioned, turns it down. And I am livid.
Now I know better. I know his food items can't be touching one another. I know I have to sit at the table with-him, even if I'm not eating. I know he likes to watch TV when he's eating, if TV is available. I know that if I make a big deal out of it all, like I used to, he won't eat anything at all. There's a learning curve.
Mrs. R will never learn it.
I hope to doG difficult child does some day.
Yesterday, difficult child forgot his lunch. He called and I told him to buy one or something, and I'd pay the person back. His math and science teacher, Mrs. R, (the difficult one) arranged for a salad to be made for him. She told him (and I had him repeat it to me twice), "Go to the cafeteria. They'll have a salad waiting for you. X will be your escort.")
X is a kid the same age or a bit older. They walk to the cafeteria. X's job is done. He takes off for the playground.
difficult child stands there by himself, sees 4 women working at the window, doesn't know which one is Mrs. A, is afraid to approach them, doesn't see a salad anywhere, gets anxious, and takes off the for playground.
Mrs. R is livid. She writes him up.
I had to sign the note, so I explained to difficult child why she was offended. I'm not sure he got it--all he was interested in was his point of view. I explained to him the he needed to go up to the window and talk to one of the women. He could have asked for Mrs. A and they would have found her.
I can see Mrs. R's point of view. difficult child has done that to me b4--demanded a certain meal b4 he starves to death, and then, upon seeing it isn't exactly what he envisioned, turns it down. And I am livid.
Now I know better. I know his food items can't be touching one another. I know I have to sit at the table with-him, even if I'm not eating. I know he likes to watch TV when he's eating, if TV is available. I know that if I make a big deal out of it all, like I used to, he won't eat anything at all. There's a learning curve.
Mrs. R will never learn it.
I hope to doG difficult child does some day.