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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 351536" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>Oh dear, you certainly have your hands full and I know how exhausting and emotionally draining it is; especially, when it is day in and day out. Most likely the school staff is not going to know if he's "manic" or not. Plus, it's really not their place to determine IF he is manic. Listing the behaviors can be helpful when you get in to see the neuropsychologist, so keep those lists. If I am not mistaken, you CAN get an IEP for behavioral issues, BUT please check with the ladies on the Special Education. forum; they are a WEALTH of information and are on their game. </p><p> </p><p>I was reading your signature, and I'm wondering, considering what you suspect, that the Concerta is making this worse? BiPolar (BP) or mood disorders are usually made worse by stimulants. I know that he is also taking abilify in combo with it, but when my Son took Concerta for hyperactivity (along with Risperdal and Abilify), woo wee!, he was over the top! I stopped that real fast-like. It's just a suggestion for you and his psychiatrist to consider. </p><p> </p><p>It is so hard to keep going. My spouse is gone most of the time working out of town, so I'm here by myself dealing with Son and all his issues. My job, which I love, is my sanctuary. Many days I dread coming home (probably a lot like your husband) because I just don't know what it is going to bring. Just a couple of weeks ago it brought the police with Son trying to have me arrested for confiscating his cell phone for awful, awful, behavior. Sometimes, I have to stay right in the moment when I am home with him. Right now, because it's spring break here, he's with husband working and I've had five GLORIOUS days of quiet and getting things done.</p><p> </p><p> Detaching is probably one of the most difficult concepts that us parents of difficult children have to grapple with; it's a process and sometimes we aren't so good at it. Especially, when someone is riding your behind with constant demands. For me, detaching mostly means not reacting to Son's antics. The other day, he wanted me to buy him an IPOD. Just out of the blue and one of his many monetary demands that he continually places on me. Of course, I wanted to scream: "NO! NO! For the millionth time, NO!". I simply told him that if he wants an IPOD, he has to save the money himself to purchase it. He did buy a Shuffle a few years ago, had it a few weeks, then left it in his pant's pocket and then washed it. Of course, it didn't work anymore. Anyway, he began having a meltdown with crying and telling me show selfish I am because I spend ALL my money on me. I mostly ignored him, which is hard when I have spend so much money over the years.</p><p> </p><p>You are using a detachment tool by posting your frustrations here. Keep it up because it helps. </p><p> </p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 351536, member: 831"] Oh dear, you certainly have your hands full and I know how exhausting and emotionally draining it is; especially, when it is day in and day out. Most likely the school staff is not going to know if he's "manic" or not. Plus, it's really not their place to determine IF he is manic. Listing the behaviors can be helpful when you get in to see the neuropsychologist, so keep those lists. If I am not mistaken, you CAN get an IEP for behavioral issues, BUT please check with the ladies on the Special Education. forum; they are a WEALTH of information and are on their game. I was reading your signature, and I'm wondering, considering what you suspect, that the Concerta is making this worse? BiPolar (BP) or mood disorders are usually made worse by stimulants. I know that he is also taking abilify in combo with it, but when my Son took Concerta for hyperactivity (along with Risperdal and Abilify), woo wee!, he was over the top! I stopped that real fast-like. It's just a suggestion for you and his psychiatrist to consider. It is so hard to keep going. My spouse is gone most of the time working out of town, so I'm here by myself dealing with Son and all his issues. My job, which I love, is my sanctuary. Many days I dread coming home (probably a lot like your husband) because I just don't know what it is going to bring. Just a couple of weeks ago it brought the police with Son trying to have me arrested for confiscating his cell phone for awful, awful, behavior. Sometimes, I have to stay right in the moment when I am home with him. Right now, because it's spring break here, he's with husband working and I've had five GLORIOUS days of quiet and getting things done. Detaching is probably one of the most difficult concepts that us parents of difficult children have to grapple with; it's a process and sometimes we aren't so good at it. Especially, when someone is riding your behind with constant demands. For me, detaching mostly means not reacting to Son's antics. The other day, he wanted me to buy him an IPOD. Just out of the blue and one of his many monetary demands that he continually places on me. Of course, I wanted to scream: "NO! NO! For the millionth time, NO!". I simply told him that if he wants an IPOD, he has to save the money himself to purchase it. He did buy a Shuffle a few years ago, had it a few weeks, then left it in his pant's pocket and then washed it. Of course, it didn't work anymore. Anyway, he began having a meltdown with crying and telling me show selfish I am because I spend ALL my money on me. I mostly ignored him, which is hard when I have spend so much money over the years. You are using a detachment tool by posting your frustrations here. Keep it up because it helps. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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