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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 692699" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>in my opinion, they never learn to balance if there is always a safety net below. It is hard to cut away that net, knowing they are going to fall. It is going to be messy and it is going to hurt, but they aren't children. They have to learn to do it on their own. If we are lucky, they are responsible and sensible and do it without too much hardship. But many have to fall, again and again, before they get it - and some never get it. The important thing is that when they fall, they get up on their own.</p><p></p><p>My disabled daughter who has more drug and psychiatric issues than I can wrap my head around is making it. She could be doing it the easy way, but she isn't. She is surfing couches, going wherever she will be taken in. But she is making it.</p><p></p><p>If you make every decision with an image in your mind of how YOU want it to work out and how YOU want it to be, you will never stick to one. These kids don't fit OUR image of what we want for them. You can't plan or wish his life into place. He will buck against it every time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 692699, member: 19905"] in my opinion, they never learn to balance if there is always a safety net below. It is hard to cut away that net, knowing they are going to fall. It is going to be messy and it is going to hurt, but they aren't children. They have to learn to do it on their own. If we are lucky, they are responsible and sensible and do it without too much hardship. But many have to fall, again and again, before they get it - and some never get it. The important thing is that when they fall, they get up on their own. My disabled daughter who has more drug and psychiatric issues than I can wrap my head around is making it. She could be doing it the easy way, but she isn't. She is surfing couches, going wherever she will be taken in. But she is making it. If you make every decision with an image in your mind of how YOU want it to work out and how YOU want it to be, you will never stick to one. These kids don't fit OUR image of what we want for them. You can't plan or wish his life into place. He will buck against it every time. [/QUOTE]
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