well im officaly at rock bottom, and i just dont know what to do anymore, i have a 15 year old daugter who is soooo difficult, she was my 2nd child, the household is in shreds, my 18year old doesnt want to be here anymore and as surportive as my husband is, even he is at breaking point.. well where do i start....
well she has always been difficult, from her first day at nursery where i had to collect her only an hour later because they couldnt cope with her
as she has got older, she has got worst, i surpose it has been at its worst since beging of 2013
she constantly misses lession or days at school even if i drive her in, she walks out the back, they are constantly on the phone as she swore at this teacher, or got in an arguement with this person, the thrown a table across the room, she has spent more days in saction room than she has in her regular classes, they cant cope with her anymore and she has been in shift school which is soon to become to a learning group session only, back in april i was in hospital for major surgery i was only home 7 days and in great discomfort when she got up one morning all surred speach and not right, i called an amulance where she was rushed to hospital, tests were run, she was in for 10 days and in that 10 days, i spent nearly every day up the hospital although my self wasnt at all well, my husband managed to get a couple off days of work to cover so i could get the odd day to recoup, it was then found at day 7 she had taken an overdose, so cahms were brought in (child adolesent heath team) she told them that she wasnt happy at school,, that she was being picked on and that she wasnt happy at home.. so then the social services got involved, a very rude social worker who couldnt get to the hospital spoke to me on the phone was very rude to me and put me in floods of tears, and when i said she was difficult he didnt want to know, i was then rushed to a and e with chest pains were they found i was tacicardic from compliactions off the surgery... anyway it was then found that the only reason she wasnt happy at home is because i was making her go to school.. so with out no sorry social services decided to close there case and cahms recomended reffering her for adhd testing, anger managment, and counciling and i called thhe police about a kid at the school.. things went a little quieter for a while maybe a month.. but let me just say cahms have been useless, as i received a letter to say they were closing there end they couldnt help her with an adhd test after all, or anger management, and they had reffered her to a counciler which i have never heard from... so after a month her normal attitude began, constant verbal abuse, not coming in when she should off, steeling from me, smashing stuff up in the house, being a nightmare at school and when we could get her to calm down and talk there was always an excuse to it, it would be anybodys elses fault but hers, so so i rang the school up one day because of something she had said had happend at school, and being a protective mum, i wanted answers but when i was shown cctv footage it was blaintly obvious she had lied through her teeth to try and get someone else in trouble, and this has been an ongoing thing since, today has just done it for me, im in tiers, i feel i cant do this anymore i love my family so much, but part of me doesnt want to be here anymore, im on so much medication with antidepressents and tablets to help me sleep, medication for high blood pressure.. the walls are just closing in... she ran away from school today and gave some teachers some horrible langage and dragged a 12 year old with her, i had to phone the police, she finally answered her phone and told me she was going back to school, they rang me to tell me she was back and that she was kicking off i could hear her telling the teacher to go f***k themselves so they asked me to collect her, when i got there she was outside school shouting at a teacher, i told her to get in the car, so she ran off again, i hunted for her for over an hour and evertime i sore a glimpse of her she would dissapear again i came home in a state, the police came round and took some info, they brought her back 2 hours later in cuffs literally kicking and screaming, they told her if she kicked of here they would come and arrest her.. she bolted to her room called me by a few swear words and slammed her door after and hour she came down and kissed me on the cheak.. i burst into tears, i didnt feel anything apart from hate for her, things were going through my mind, i wish she would just go.. i wish social services would just come and take her, why is she the way she is, her older sister had a couple of problems at school and could be a little checcky but nothing that bad at all why do i have 2 children totaly the oppersite what did i do so different, they say a child grows up to how we bring them up, i have never been violent or used langage like that, her only punishments have been grounding or maybe takeing her phone away, and even that has been done with reluctants as im always scared if she feels un happy with her punishment that she will punish me by takeing an overdose again, i have been on the phone all day, the doctor doesnt really seem to want to help, i tryed to chase cahms up about there consilor refferal and they tryed to say there was nothing on there system i burst into tears and ha to put the phone down.. ive been all over the internet.. i cant seem to find much help or advice, then i found this group.. and now you are reading my jibbering on.. while im shaking and in tears again..
well she has always been difficult, from her first day at nursery where i had to collect her only an hour later because they couldnt cope with her
as she has got older, she has got worst, i surpose it has been at its worst since beging of 2013
she constantly misses lession or days at school even if i drive her in, she walks out the back, they are constantly on the phone as she swore at this teacher, or got in an arguement with this person, the thrown a table across the room, she has spent more days in saction room than she has in her regular classes, they cant cope with her anymore and she has been in shift school which is soon to become to a learning group session only, back in april i was in hospital for major surgery i was only home 7 days and in great discomfort when she got up one morning all surred speach and not right, i called an amulance where she was rushed to hospital, tests were run, she was in for 10 days and in that 10 days, i spent nearly every day up the hospital although my self wasnt at all well, my husband managed to get a couple off days of work to cover so i could get the odd day to recoup, it was then found at day 7 she had taken an overdose, so cahms were brought in (child adolesent heath team) she told them that she wasnt happy at school,, that she was being picked on and that she wasnt happy at home.. so then the social services got involved, a very rude social worker who couldnt get to the hospital spoke to me on the phone was very rude to me and put me in floods of tears, and when i said she was difficult he didnt want to know, i was then rushed to a and e with chest pains were they found i was tacicardic from compliactions off the surgery... anyway it was then found that the only reason she wasnt happy at home is because i was making her go to school.. so with out no sorry social services decided to close there case and cahms recomended reffering her for adhd testing, anger managment, and counciling and i called thhe police about a kid at the school.. things went a little quieter for a while maybe a month.. but let me just say cahms have been useless, as i received a letter to say they were closing there end they couldnt help her with an adhd test after all, or anger management, and they had reffered her to a counciler which i have never heard from... so after a month her normal attitude began, constant verbal abuse, not coming in when she should off, steeling from me, smashing stuff up in the house, being a nightmare at school and when we could get her to calm down and talk there was always an excuse to it, it would be anybodys elses fault but hers, so so i rang the school up one day because of something she had said had happend at school, and being a protective mum, i wanted answers but when i was shown cctv footage it was blaintly obvious she had lied through her teeth to try and get someone else in trouble, and this has been an ongoing thing since, today has just done it for me, im in tiers, i feel i cant do this anymore i love my family so much, but part of me doesnt want to be here anymore, im on so much medication with antidepressents and tablets to help me sleep, medication for high blood pressure.. the walls are just closing in... she ran away from school today and gave some teachers some horrible langage and dragged a 12 year old with her, i had to phone the police, she finally answered her phone and told me she was going back to school, they rang me to tell me she was back and that she was kicking off i could hear her telling the teacher to go f***k themselves so they asked me to collect her, when i got there she was outside school shouting at a teacher, i told her to get in the car, so she ran off again, i hunted for her for over an hour and evertime i sore a glimpse of her she would dissapear again i came home in a state, the police came round and took some info, they brought her back 2 hours later in cuffs literally kicking and screaming, they told her if she kicked of here they would come and arrest her.. she bolted to her room called me by a few swear words and slammed her door after and hour she came down and kissed me on the cheak.. i burst into tears, i didnt feel anything apart from hate for her, things were going through my mind, i wish she would just go.. i wish social services would just come and take her, why is she the way she is, her older sister had a couple of problems at school and could be a little checcky but nothing that bad at all why do i have 2 children totaly the oppersite what did i do so different, they say a child grows up to how we bring them up, i have never been violent or used langage like that, her only punishments have been grounding or maybe takeing her phone away, and even that has been done with reluctants as im always scared if she feels un happy with her punishment that she will punish me by takeing an overdose again, i have been on the phone all day, the doctor doesnt really seem to want to help, i tryed to chase cahms up about there consilor refferal and they tryed to say there was nothing on there system i burst into tears and ha to put the phone down.. ive been all over the internet.. i cant seem to find much help or advice, then i found this group.. and now you are reading my jibbering on.. while im shaking and in tears again..
