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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 294926" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I forget that I haven't posted much of my story here in awhile... so a couple of points...</p><p></p><p>Oldest hasn't lived with me since she was kicked out at 19 (she's 25). Letting her stay temporarily took a lot of thought, believe me. I've set no date yet, but she's well aware of how temporary it is. The date will probably be discussed in the next week or two... after I see how she handles some choices got in front of her. I mention her being there because the lack of an empty nest is stressing me on top of the rest... I LOVE living alone and want it back, soon. Her story is frankly too exhausting to even write here ... but when she leaves, it's not likely to be to move into a stable place, just.. another place. My apartment is just a temporary "soft place to land" for her, for now. I"m hoping it gives her some strength to regroup.. but I just don't know. </p><p></p><p>I have an active social life, and tons of friends. So distracting myself, taking care of myself, isn't an issue, believe me ;-) I'm just seeing how I've fallen in to the role of being Youngest's counselor... and I need to set a boundary there. I've worked through Detachment 301 (ha) in the past... I'm just slipping some, is all. Finding myself falling into old habits of obsessing over problems that aren't mine... mostly because I worry about the grandson. </p><p></p><p>The waiting list for housing assistance here is over a year long. Once she moves in with boyfriend, that's it. No going back. If it doesn't work out, she can't just pop back into housing assistance.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 294926, member: 1157"] I forget that I haven't posted much of my story here in awhile... so a couple of points... Oldest hasn't lived with me since she was kicked out at 19 (she's 25). Letting her stay temporarily took a lot of thought, believe me. I've set no date yet, but she's well aware of how temporary it is. The date will probably be discussed in the next week or two... after I see how she handles some choices got in front of her. I mention her being there because the lack of an empty nest is stressing me on top of the rest... I LOVE living alone and want it back, soon. Her story is frankly too exhausting to even write here ... but when she leaves, it's not likely to be to move into a stable place, just.. another place. My apartment is just a temporary "soft place to land" for her, for now. I"m hoping it gives her some strength to regroup.. but I just don't know. I have an active social life, and tons of friends. So distracting myself, taking care of myself, isn't an issue, believe me ;-) I'm just seeing how I've fallen in to the role of being Youngest's counselor... and I need to set a boundary there. I've worked through Detachment 301 (ha) in the past... I'm just slipping some, is all. Finding myself falling into old habits of obsessing over problems that aren't mine... mostly because I worry about the grandson. The waiting list for housing assistance here is over a year long. Once she moves in with boyfriend, that's it. No going back. If it doesn't work out, she can't just pop back into housing assistance. [/QUOTE]
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