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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 294959" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>That's what I'm thinking, Witz. I'm NOT the one she should be calling.. no matter how close she feels to me. On one hand I'm flattered, on the other, it's causing me more stress than it's worth. That's what I plan to say to her tonight at dinner. I'm her mother, not her therapist. I have a feeling it won't go over well, but so be it. </p><p></p><p>I have 2 bedrooms.. the 2nd has been empty since Youngest moved out over a year ago. It's cramped and not that comfortable for Oldest.. but given that she's been sleeping on someone's couch for awhile, I doubt she considers any of it uncomfortable. It's more about my own discomfort.,.. I miss my solitude! She works nights when she does work, so she's actually not there that often.. but it's still a disruption. She's bending over backwards to do dishes, cook dinner, take out the trash and clean up after herself, though.. that is HUGE for her. She is definitely appreciative of being there. Sad to say she has never really "had her act together," but I'm hoping this will give her enough of a base to have a better start this time. Each time (starting over) could be "the" time, I suppose. </p><p></p><p>I do have caller ID, and I do use it often.. plus my kids each have their own "ring" on my phone (sometimes I CRINGE at those ringtones!) Youngest has a habit of calling again 20 mins later if I don't answer. I've been saving up a talk on that, too ... I think she has NO idea just how often she calls me (sometimes up to 5 or 6 times a day). Basically she just picks up the phone with any question that pops into her head, without thinking about where I am or what I am doing. I'm pretty tired of it, but I'm the one who's allowed it to go one for awhile. Time to nip it in the bud.</p><p></p><p>Yup, my own depression is lurking ... well aware of that, it's why I need to refocus and regroup, myself. If I need to go back on medications, so be it... but I don't think I'm to that point yet.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 294959, member: 1157"] That's what I'm thinking, Witz. I'm NOT the one she should be calling.. no matter how close she feels to me. On one hand I'm flattered, on the other, it's causing me more stress than it's worth. That's what I plan to say to her tonight at dinner. I'm her mother, not her therapist. I have a feeling it won't go over well, but so be it. I have 2 bedrooms.. the 2nd has been empty since Youngest moved out over a year ago. It's cramped and not that comfortable for Oldest.. but given that she's been sleeping on someone's couch for awhile, I doubt she considers any of it uncomfortable. It's more about my own discomfort.,.. I miss my solitude! She works nights when she does work, so she's actually not there that often.. but it's still a disruption. She's bending over backwards to do dishes, cook dinner, take out the trash and clean up after herself, though.. that is HUGE for her. She is definitely appreciative of being there. Sad to say she has never really "had her act together," but I'm hoping this will give her enough of a base to have a better start this time. Each time (starting over) could be "the" time, I suppose. I do have caller ID, and I do use it often.. plus my kids each have their own "ring" on my phone (sometimes I CRINGE at those ringtones!) Youngest has a habit of calling again 20 mins later if I don't answer. I've been saving up a talk on that, too ... I think she has NO idea just how often she calls me (sometimes up to 5 or 6 times a day). Basically she just picks up the phone with any question that pops into her head, without thinking about where I am or what I am doing. I'm pretty tired of it, but I'm the one who's allowed it to go one for awhile. Time to nip it in the bud. Yup, my own depression is lurking ... well aware of that, it's why I need to refocus and regroup, myself. If I need to go back on medications, so be it... but I don't think I'm to that point yet. [/QUOTE]
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