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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 137504" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi</p><p></p><p>i agree with you 100&#37; you are correct you truly are. i am a work in progress i'm trying so hard with everything i really am.</p><p></p><p>we sat in truck for two hours last night with-tea and our cigarettes to resolve this.</p><p></p><p>he did not spend time with her he says def. not have sex iwth her or kiss her or anything. he said she was a girlfriend of one of his friends thsi i had known but wasn't sure she was the right jen he spoke of in past. they broke up she was upset she turned to him.</p><p></p><p>we both have issues. he needs to be the knight in shining armor me snooping was wrong yet he needs to fix everyolne thats his issue. so at teh end of the day lying to me and violating my trust was not good at all. he needs to understand that we are way too important to lie to me to cover up anything we come first.</p><p></p><p>he said they spoke texted, etc. she got carried away and started to ask to spend time with him he said i can't do that. she asked again. </p><p></p><p>he makes bad choices my t said on who to help, it's the second time h'es done this and lied to me to help someone else made it look as though there was alot more going on than there was ofcourse with the lying, etc.</p><p></p><p>so after we spoke at length last night about it all. we both decided that he will go back to therapy seperately to deal with his issues and i will ofcourse continue mine i'm in the thick of flashbacks and trying to handle my abuse issues and that he will join me in my session periodically to understand me better and resolve our issues together.</p><p></p><p>so i do love him i cannot lie. he means the world to me. it's giong to be harder going forward now due to the lie but i want this man in my life i screwed up and so did he. so we actually resolved it last night after 2 hours alot of tea and a few cigarettes my t said that was huge for us and it means that even though i messed up and snooped and he messed up adn lied that we have grown.</p><p></p><p>so we begin again keeping my fingers crossed that i'm judging the situation properly that he means that he will no longer look to save every female on teh planet in which needs help and that together hopefully we can both become very mentally healthy people and have this be a very rewarding relationship.</p><p></p><p>my issues are hard i know looking at it from the outside i may sound like a nut and a half. yet what was done Occupational Therapist (OT) me yeras ago i have never trusted another man since it was rather bad to say the least i surpressed it for yeras my family never took legal steps to go after my father so there was this really big carpet and a huge broom and it got swept underneath.</p><p></p><p>not good at all. so i have never been a whole person i have lived in fear my whole life and running from it. now i'm hitting it and everything else head on in hopes to be the best person i can be for me first and foremost for my girls who need my wisdom and my strength and for him.</p><p></p><p>thanks for your bluntness. i've also learned to take others thoughts better. my defenses used to kick in terribly now i'm open to hearing things.</p><p></p><p>little by little</p><p></p><p>Jen <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 137504, member: 4514"] hi i agree with you 100% you are correct you truly are. i am a work in progress i'm trying so hard with everything i really am. we sat in truck for two hours last night with-tea and our cigarettes to resolve this. he did not spend time with her he says def. not have sex iwth her or kiss her or anything. he said she was a girlfriend of one of his friends thsi i had known but wasn't sure she was the right jen he spoke of in past. they broke up she was upset she turned to him. we both have issues. he needs to be the knight in shining armor me snooping was wrong yet he needs to fix everyolne thats his issue. so at teh end of the day lying to me and violating my trust was not good at all. he needs to understand that we are way too important to lie to me to cover up anything we come first. he said they spoke texted, etc. she got carried away and started to ask to spend time with him he said i can't do that. she asked again. he makes bad choices my t said on who to help, it's the second time h'es done this and lied to me to help someone else made it look as though there was alot more going on than there was ofcourse with the lying, etc. so after we spoke at length last night about it all. we both decided that he will go back to therapy seperately to deal with his issues and i will ofcourse continue mine i'm in the thick of flashbacks and trying to handle my abuse issues and that he will join me in my session periodically to understand me better and resolve our issues together. so i do love him i cannot lie. he means the world to me. it's giong to be harder going forward now due to the lie but i want this man in my life i screwed up and so did he. so we actually resolved it last night after 2 hours alot of tea and a few cigarettes my t said that was huge for us and it means that even though i messed up and snooped and he messed up adn lied that we have grown. so we begin again keeping my fingers crossed that i'm judging the situation properly that he means that he will no longer look to save every female on teh planet in which needs help and that together hopefully we can both become very mentally healthy people and have this be a very rewarding relationship. my issues are hard i know looking at it from the outside i may sound like a nut and a half. yet what was done Occupational Therapist (OT) me yeras ago i have never trusted another man since it was rather bad to say the least i surpressed it for yeras my family never took legal steps to go after my father so there was this really big carpet and a huge broom and it got swept underneath. not good at all. so i have never been a whole person i have lived in fear my whole life and running from it. now i'm hitting it and everything else head on in hopes to be the best person i can be for me first and foremost for my girls who need my wisdom and my strength and for him. thanks for your bluntness. i've also learned to take others thoughts better. my defenses used to kick in terribly now i'm open to hearing things. little by little Jen :) [/QUOTE]
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