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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 149736" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I personally think this whole situation is more about you and your reactions than it is about your SO. Your trust issues are holding you back. </p><p></p><p>I dont send texts on my phone but I do instant message on the computer. Im all the time calling someone "hun, darlin or other types of things" and I often end my texts with "luv ya, have a good night". Im not in any type of relationship with these people other than a friendship. In fact you may have noticed that I start some posts here with Hun or Darlin. Im southern...lol. </p><p></p><p>I trust my SO completely and wouldnt care if I found texts to him. If he wants to stray he will do so and there is nothing I can do about it just by reading his text messages. </p><p></p><p>I had and still do have, major trust issues but they dont have much to do with other people. Its a major part of my borderline diagnosis. My SO and I have been together since my oldest son was 2 but we have never married. I dont feel the need to now after just shy of 25 years together. That piece of paper isnt going to tie us together any closer than we are now. </p><p></p><p>All relationships are going to have issues. This is especially true when you combine families. My SO hates my ex with a passion but it is because of the way he treated his son. Oddly enough it is my ex who has the issues with us even communicating on a purely superficial basis. He wont even talk to me on the computer about my oldest son...lol. He says he doesnt feel it is proper for divorced people to talk to each other...oh please....I sure dont want him and wouldnt take him back if he had 10 million bucks tied to his bum!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 149736, member: 1514"] I personally think this whole situation is more about you and your reactions than it is about your SO. Your trust issues are holding you back. I dont send texts on my phone but I do instant message on the computer. Im all the time calling someone "hun, darlin or other types of things" and I often end my texts with "luv ya, have a good night". Im not in any type of relationship with these people other than a friendship. In fact you may have noticed that I start some posts here with Hun or Darlin. Im southern...lol. I trust my SO completely and wouldnt care if I found texts to him. If he wants to stray he will do so and there is nothing I can do about it just by reading his text messages. I had and still do have, major trust issues but they dont have much to do with other people. Its a major part of my borderline diagnosis. My SO and I have been together since my oldest son was 2 but we have never married. I dont feel the need to now after just shy of 25 years together. That piece of paper isnt going to tie us together any closer than we are now. All relationships are going to have issues. This is especially true when you combine families. My SO hates my ex with a passion but it is because of the way he treated his son. Oddly enough it is my ex who has the issues with us even communicating on a purely superficial basis. He wont even talk to me on the computer about my oldest son...lol. He says he doesnt feel it is proper for divorced people to talk to each other...oh please....I sure dont want him and wouldnt take him back if he had 10 million bucks tied to his bum! [/QUOTE]
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