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easy child and I got into a yelling match this afternoon and I have no idea what set it off.
difficult child was leaving with her PCA, but they needed easy child to move his car because he was parked behind them. difficult child had asked easy child to move his car, but PCA and I were talking. So, when he came to move his car and they weren't leaving *that second*, he got annoyed.
Finally, he went out and moved his car and then called from his cellphone to get people out of the house. Come on. He could have pulled his car in the easement like everyone else here does and like everyone else on the street does. Not a big deal. But, no. He had to call to say they need to leave right now.
While he was out there, I went in his room and sat down at his desk and was talking to his girlfriend. easy child came in and started yelling at me because I was sitting at his desk.
Of course, that went over like a ton of bricks with me. He was being completely irrational about the moving the car thing and then was yelling at me because "you were yelling at me to move the car and they weren't even ready to leave."
First of all, *I* never said one word to him about moving his car. And it's really moot cause he was totally overreacting.
And he continued to yell at me. The difficult child in me doesn't take kindly to that and so I yelled back. I can't even remember what was said; just that I was thinking that this is so surreal. I couldn't believe that this was something to get so worked up about. But, him walking back in and yelling at me because I was sitting at his desk talking to his girlfriend...because he had been doing something on the computer??? OMG. Like it would have taken me all of a second to move.
I started to say, "I don't like you when you come in yelling at me", but I got out, "I don't like you..." and he yelled "Sweet" and kicked his door shut. It shook the house.
That did it for me. I opened his door and finished my sentence. He went on yelling. I yelled back that he came in yelling at me and then I *screamed* "What the [bleep] did I do???", and walked out.
He left without saying a word to me or his girlfriend. She said he had been in a good mood and she doesn't know what set him off.
I know, however, that I am beyond sick of this carp and he's going to have a come to Jesus meeting or he's going to find somewhere else to live. I am not going to walk on eggshells in my own home. He's been doing much better, but the littlest, stupidest thing will set him off. Then, when he's over it we're all just supposed to be ok, too. Not only was he so worked up over something so incredibly stupid, he was mad at someone else and taking it out on me. Again.
I do think I know what set him off. easy child came home when the PCA was here and I asked easy child if he went to school today. difficult child was confused and her PCA explained that it wasn't regular school, that it was for kids who are smart, but who lazily didn't do the work so it was an accelerated program to graduate. That comment set him off, I'm sure. Doesn't matter that it's true. One could argue that maybe she shouldn't have said that in front of him, but the truth is you can't say anything to him or in front of him about the fact that *he* didn't graduate without setting him off. Plus, he has come home in rip roaring moods with the PCA here and he doesn't care how he acts in front of people when he's like that. So, she's been annoyed with him, too.
And now my throat hurts.
difficult child was leaving with her PCA, but they needed easy child to move his car because he was parked behind them. difficult child had asked easy child to move his car, but PCA and I were talking. So, when he came to move his car and they weren't leaving *that second*, he got annoyed.
Finally, he went out and moved his car and then called from his cellphone to get people out of the house. Come on. He could have pulled his car in the easement like everyone else here does and like everyone else on the street does. Not a big deal. But, no. He had to call to say they need to leave right now.
While he was out there, I went in his room and sat down at his desk and was talking to his girlfriend. easy child came in and started yelling at me because I was sitting at his desk.
Of course, that went over like a ton of bricks with me. He was being completely irrational about the moving the car thing and then was yelling at me because "you were yelling at me to move the car and they weren't even ready to leave."
First of all, *I* never said one word to him about moving his car. And it's really moot cause he was totally overreacting.
And he continued to yell at me. The difficult child in me doesn't take kindly to that and so I yelled back. I can't even remember what was said; just that I was thinking that this is so surreal. I couldn't believe that this was something to get so worked up about. But, him walking back in and yelling at me because I was sitting at his desk talking to his girlfriend...because he had been doing something on the computer??? OMG. Like it would have taken me all of a second to move.
I started to say, "I don't like you when you come in yelling at me", but I got out, "I don't like you..." and he yelled "Sweet" and kicked his door shut. It shook the house.
That did it for me. I opened his door and finished my sentence. He went on yelling. I yelled back that he came in yelling at me and then I *screamed* "What the [bleep] did I do???", and walked out.
He left without saying a word to me or his girlfriend. She said he had been in a good mood and she doesn't know what set him off.
I know, however, that I am beyond sick of this carp and he's going to have a come to Jesus meeting or he's going to find somewhere else to live. I am not going to walk on eggshells in my own home. He's been doing much better, but the littlest, stupidest thing will set him off. Then, when he's over it we're all just supposed to be ok, too. Not only was he so worked up over something so incredibly stupid, he was mad at someone else and taking it out on me. Again.
I do think I know what set him off. easy child came home when the PCA was here and I asked easy child if he went to school today. difficult child was confused and her PCA explained that it wasn't regular school, that it was for kids who are smart, but who lazily didn't do the work so it was an accelerated program to graduate. That comment set him off, I'm sure. Doesn't matter that it's true. One could argue that maybe she shouldn't have said that in front of him, but the truth is you can't say anything to him or in front of him about the fact that *he* didn't graduate without setting him off. Plus, he has come home in rip roaring moods with the PCA here and he doesn't care how he acts in front of people when he's like that. So, she's been annoyed with him, too.
And now my throat hurts.
