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<blockquote data-quote="Biscuit" data-source="post: 683925" data-attributes="member: 20143"><p>Hello all,</p><p></p><p>Well, things accelerated a bit recently... The kid had an altercation with his father. The father asked him to do a chore (washing his very dirty clothes) one time, two times, and had to repeat three times. The third time the kid bursted in anger and the father asked what he wanted and that he looked like he wanted to punch him, and the kid answered "no need" and punched his own face repeteadly until he nearly passed out.</p><p></p><p>The father wrote to us that he did not want to deal with him anymore. This happened the day when we had planned a nice restaurant with the kid and my wife. We canceled it then the kid wrote a text to his mother who looked like a farewell text: he did not want to live with his father any more (shared custody) and he understood his mother did not want him (? she never said that or whatever but it is what he fears) and that he was gonna be responsible and goodbye and all. </p><p></p><p>So I decided to step in and take the kid back home with my wife. We had a good evening, and some good talks. After that he was supposed to sleep one night at his father place, he agreed, we drove him at his father place but he never went to sleep. He sleeped away at his girlfriend place, driving his father crazy about that. </p><p></p><p>So, we took the kid at our home, with strict rules. He was nice the first day, he even decided to totally clean his room, arrange it for better studying, we had nice discussions, and a serious chat on drugs (I am a former weed smoker and have lost some friends to drugs) </p><p></p><p>The next day, he asked for something in shopping, we went to his room to put it and it was smelling smoke (cigarette smoke, not weed or hash or heroin or whatever). His mother found an ashtray with old cigs... Not a big deal but as former smokers who struggled to stop, we told him that we never smoked in the house and that he will not be the one to start.</p><p></p><p>We also have the confirmation he went to rave parties etc... His best friend is a very clever kid with great results at school, politically engaged, fighting for the "right to party free" etc, he uses drugs but he maintains good results. The kid is following him and I totally understand it but he has not at all the same results and the same personal situation... His girflriend is also very clever and responsible but stepsons girlfriend is not at all in this situation... </p><p></p><p>Blah. </p><p>Tired.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Biscuit, post: 683925, member: 20143"] Hello all, Well, things accelerated a bit recently... The kid had an altercation with his father. The father asked him to do a chore (washing his very dirty clothes) one time, two times, and had to repeat three times. The third time the kid bursted in anger and the father asked what he wanted and that he looked like he wanted to punch him, and the kid answered "no need" and punched his own face repeteadly until he nearly passed out. The father wrote to us that he did not want to deal with him anymore. This happened the day when we had planned a nice restaurant with the kid and my wife. We canceled it then the kid wrote a text to his mother who looked like a farewell text: he did not want to live with his father any more (shared custody) and he understood his mother did not want him (? she never said that or whatever but it is what he fears) and that he was gonna be responsible and goodbye and all. So I decided to step in and take the kid back home with my wife. We had a good evening, and some good talks. After that he was supposed to sleep one night at his father place, he agreed, we drove him at his father place but he never went to sleep. He sleeped away at his girlfriend place, driving his father crazy about that. So, we took the kid at our home, with strict rules. He was nice the first day, he even decided to totally clean his room, arrange it for better studying, we had nice discussions, and a serious chat on drugs (I am a former weed smoker and have lost some friends to drugs) The next day, he asked for something in shopping, we went to his room to put it and it was smelling smoke (cigarette smoke, not weed or hash or heroin or whatever). His mother found an ashtray with old cigs... Not a big deal but as former smokers who struggled to stop, we told him that we never smoked in the house and that he will not be the one to start. We also have the confirmation he went to rave parties etc... His best friend is a very clever kid with great results at school, politically engaged, fighting for the "right to party free" etc, he uses drugs but he maintains good results. The kid is following him and I totally understand it but he has not at all the same results and the same personal situation... His girflriend is also very clever and responsible but stepsons girlfriend is not at all in this situation... Blah. Tired. [/QUOTE]
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