My husband has an anger management issue and refuses to get help or even acknowledge it. My 17yo daughter is very difficult and they do not get along. All the parenting books say do not argue, scream, shout at your teen. I have read the books, husband refuses to. He doesn't even listen when I try to tell him what the books say to do. When my daughter misbehaves (beer bottles found in her room, for example), he screams at her, she screams back, swears, throws things and it all escalates. A previous time this happened (about last January) I called the police, fearing someone might be hurt. I also told him that if he continues this behavior, I would take my 13yo ds and move to a women's shelter. Last night, daughter said she was leaving and he told her if she does, she may never come back. Another thing that I read is wrong to say. That a child should always know that home is a safe haven and if they want to work on their behavior, they are always welcome home. Well, of course she is gone. I'm sure she is ok - she went to school today so she is living with one of her friends evidently. But I am sick about this. I am fed up with husband, I am totally dependent since I have a severe heart condition and I cannot work. In fact, all the stress is horribly damaging to my condition. I don't like my daughter's behavior and I want her to know she must obey house rules if she wants to live here. But husband does not cooperate with discussions and she hates him. Is there anything I can do at all? I miss my daughter and feel horrible about this. Oh, yeah, after the big blow out last night, husband announced he was leaving. He left for about 10 minutes then came home and now is sleeping (and basically living in the basement). I don't know what I did wrong here, in fact, all I did was try to talk to daughter in the thick of the arguing. Of course to no avail. I didn't say anything against husband nor did I argue with him in front of her. So to hear him say he was leaving and now to be giving me the silent treatement is really shocking. Please help, I am really suffering.