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<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 572424"><p>My advice is if nothing changes, nothing changes. He has a roof over his head, all the comforts of home provided to him and he gets to do drugs and sleep all day. What motivation does he have to change anything? </p><p></p><p>My daughter is a crystal meth addict. We had to give her the ultimatum of rehab or living on her own and she chose living on her own. She is still homeless after a couple of years now. Yeah, I tried to get her to go to college, too. It was like putting lipstick on a pig. Pointless when they are living this kind of life style. </p><p></p><p>While I am continually heartbroken that my daughter doesn't want a better life (she was in rehab and made almost 30 days before she left and relapsed late last year), the rest of the house is not suffering because of her choices. Her addiction caused constant turmoil and chaos in our home and I will be honest when I say I do not miss that at all. My home is now peaceful. I even feel the change in energy when my daughter comes by to visit. I love her dearly, I pray for her daily and I will never give up hope. But I will be danged if I keep enabling her to live that life. The only thing I give her is a cellphone and that is only so I have a way of knowing she is alive. </p><p></p><p>The more you save him and provide a cushion for his fall, you are pushing bottom further down. He needs to hit bottom to want change and change will only come when they want it. Wise words from my brother who has been clean for years now. Hard on us and hard to hear, but it is the truth. </p><p></p><p>I recommend a support group and perhaps watch the show Intervention and Rehab with Dr. Drew. I really learned a<em> lot</em> from those two shows...and keep coming here. This site has been my source of strength since I found it! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 572424"] My advice is if nothing changes, nothing changes. He has a roof over his head, all the comforts of home provided to him and he gets to do drugs and sleep all day. What motivation does he have to change anything? My daughter is a crystal meth addict. We had to give her the ultimatum of rehab or living on her own and she chose living on her own. She is still homeless after a couple of years now. Yeah, I tried to get her to go to college, too. It was like putting lipstick on a pig. Pointless when they are living this kind of life style. While I am continually heartbroken that my daughter doesn't want a better life (she was in rehab and made almost 30 days before she left and relapsed late last year), the rest of the house is not suffering because of her choices. Her addiction caused constant turmoil and chaos in our home and I will be honest when I say I do not miss that at all. My home is now peaceful. I even feel the change in energy when my daughter comes by to visit. I love her dearly, I pray for her daily and I will never give up hope. But I will be danged if I keep enabling her to live that life. The only thing I give her is a cellphone and that is only so I have a way of knowing she is alive. The more you save him and provide a cushion for his fall, you are pushing bottom further down. He needs to hit bottom to want change and change will only come when they want it. Wise words from my brother who has been clean for years now. Hard on us and hard to hear, but it is the truth. I recommend a support group and perhaps watch the show Intervention and Rehab with Dr. Drew. I really learned a[I] lot[/I] from those two shows...and keep coming here. This site has been my source of strength since I found it! :) (((HUGS))) [/QUOTE]
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