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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 572426" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>As long as he is using, you will be throwing away your money for college classes. I am speaking from experience. Sadly, my difficult child has started and stopped college many times. She still expresses a desire for going back to college but until she has shown us that she is serious about recovery, we are not spending another dime on her education. She even took out FAFSA and Pell grants and lived on them for a year but didn't finish a class either semester. Now she owes the government $20,000 with nothing to show for it.</p><p></p><p>If you are going to spend money, spend it on rehab. Of course, he will not agree to go as long as he gets a roof over his head and food to eat while he is using. I am not a big fan of throwing them out of the house but that is sometimes what is needed for them to realize that they need help. </p><p></p><p>One word of caution, in some states (like mine), you cannot simply kick them out. If they are considered a legal resident (whether paying rent or not), you have to go through the eviction process. Check the laws in your state so you are prepared. When we tried to kick our daughter out of the house, she knew the law and laughed in our faces. The police came and confirmed that she was right. However, if he is bringing illegal drugs into your home or you are in fear, then you can probably get a temporary protection order which will force him to leave that day. That is what we had to do recently and now our daughter is in rehab.</p><p></p><p>Good luck and we are are for support.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 572426, member: 1967"] As long as he is using, you will be throwing away your money for college classes. I am speaking from experience. Sadly, my difficult child has started and stopped college many times. She still expresses a desire for going back to college but until she has shown us that she is serious about recovery, we are not spending another dime on her education. She even took out FAFSA and Pell grants and lived on them for a year but didn't finish a class either semester. Now she owes the government $20,000 with nothing to show for it. If you are going to spend money, spend it on rehab. Of course, he will not agree to go as long as he gets a roof over his head and food to eat while he is using. I am not a big fan of throwing them out of the house but that is sometimes what is needed for them to realize that they need help. One word of caution, in some states (like mine), you cannot simply kick them out. If they are considered a legal resident (whether paying rent or not), you have to go through the eviction process. Check the laws in your state so you are prepared. When we tried to kick our daughter out of the house, she knew the law and laughed in our faces. The police came and confirmed that she was right. However, if he is bringing illegal drugs into your home or you are in fear, then you can probably get a temporary protection order which will force him to leave that day. That is what we had to do recently and now our daughter is in rehab. Good luck and we are are for support. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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