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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 580949" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>I am so sorry for what you're going through. I think that you should not have to live with his use under your nose. Lay the rules for living in your home - that means NO DRUGS. Since he has already proven that he is not willing or able to do that, I would highly reccomend that IF you give him a chance to stay it is ONLY under the terms that he starts by either going to Rehab or IOP and submits to regular drug tests, starting today. He must demonstrate that he is complying. If he is not willing to comply (which will probably be the case) - he must leave - and set a date which is ASAP. One of the best lines I have heard form my support group is "If nothing changes then nothing changes". I live with my 17 year old son who has been up and down for the past 2 years. Any time we see him struggle, we make IOP mandatory - truthfully, he will also come to us and say he needs to go again. We will continue with this plan, BUT when he turns 18 and is done with HS (if he's able to get through) - the terms will get tougher. I choose not to live with someone who is actively abusing drugs. If he lives that lifestyle - he's out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 580949, member: 12490"] I am so sorry for what you're going through. I think that you should not have to live with his use under your nose. Lay the rules for living in your home - that means NO DRUGS. Since he has already proven that he is not willing or able to do that, I would highly reccomend that IF you give him a chance to stay it is ONLY under the terms that he starts by either going to Rehab or IOP and submits to regular drug tests, starting today. He must demonstrate that he is complying. If he is not willing to comply (which will probably be the case) - he must leave - and set a date which is ASAP. One of the best lines I have heard form my support group is "If nothing changes then nothing changes". I live with my 17 year old son who has been up and down for the past 2 years. Any time we see him struggle, we make IOP mandatory - truthfully, he will also come to us and say he needs to go again. We will continue with this plan, BUT when he turns 18 and is done with HS (if he's able to get through) - the terms will get tougher. I choose not to live with someone who is actively abusing drugs. If he lives that lifestyle - he's out. [/QUOTE]
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