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I feel as if I'm at the end of my rope with H now...
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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 464310" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/grouphug.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":grouphug:" title="grouphug :grouphug:" data-shortname=":grouphug:" /></p><p>I am so sorry this is happening....I would be crying all of the time as well. Especially if I was in pain and I was tapering off Wellbutrin - GAWD.</p><p></p><p>I think others have given amazing advice, and I know myself, and I would be inclined to do as Star* said. However, that said, the story about your H's husbands brother dying is an interesting twist. I bet when his brother died, his mother turned to H as her source of all comfort, and that dysfunctional bond has not been broken. I would assume he feels an amazing amount of guilt about "abandoning" his mom (or so he feels) if he doesn't agree to her living with you. I would also be willing to guess that his Mom made him say all sorts of unhealthy things when the death of his bro happened, like don't ever leave me, I can't live without you, etc. etc. This dysfunctional bond that they have is a very deep rooted thing - and that makes this unbelievably complicated. I would definitely try to get the counselor to get H to open up about the death of his brother, as a way to get reconciliation in H's mind that telling him Mom 'no' is OK to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 464310, member: 3301"] :grouphug: I am so sorry this is happening....I would be crying all of the time as well. Especially if I was in pain and I was tapering off Wellbutrin - GAWD. I think others have given amazing advice, and I know myself, and I would be inclined to do as Star* said. However, that said, the story about your H's husbands brother dying is an interesting twist. I bet when his brother died, his mother turned to H as her source of all comfort, and that dysfunctional bond has not been broken. I would assume he feels an amazing amount of guilt about "abandoning" his mom (or so he feels) if he doesn't agree to her living with you. I would also be willing to guess that his Mom made him say all sorts of unhealthy things when the death of his bro happened, like don't ever leave me, I can't live without you, etc. etc. This dysfunctional bond that they have is a very deep rooted thing - and that makes this unbelievably complicated. I would definitely try to get the counselor to get H to open up about the death of his brother, as a way to get reconciliation in H's mind that telling him Mom 'no' is OK to do. [/QUOTE]
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