gcvmom
Here we go again!
I suggested to difficult child 2 that he invite two neighbor kids over to swim in the pool we put up (he needs the social interaction AND the exercise). They happen to be sisters, one who is a year older than difficult child 2 and one who is several years younger... but the older one has ADHD (her dad is BiPolar (BP)) and difficult child 2 gets along with her really well, and he always gets along with kids who are a lot younger than him -- he becomes very protective of them.
So things were going "swimmingly" for quite a while... at least an hour. Then the three kids wanted easy child/difficult child 3 and difficult child 1 to come in so they could play a tag game in the water with more people. difficult child 1 declined, but easy child finally was convinced and just jumped in with her clothes on.
But after a half hour or so, there was an incident between difficult child 2 and easy child and I had to pull them both out of the pool. easy child and the older girl accusing difficult child 2 of trying to pull their pants down, plus easy child saying he difficult child 2 kicked her in "the privates" and him crying because easy child pinched his chest really hard. He denies "trying" to do what they said -- that he was trying to pull himself out of the water using them to gain a footing and subsequently grabbing onto them... not sure about the kicking, but this isn't the first time. He is having impulse control problems, especially with his sibs, but it seems whenever easy child and difficult child 2 get together the sparks fly -- sometimes easy child's complaints are legit, and sometimes she's a big part of the problem.
I just feel bad for difficult child 2 because he has no friends and these neighbor kids are about it -- and when he tries to include easy child, things fall apart and he is left alone and easy child's out there with the other girls now.
Maybe I let him stay out there too long and it was just too much activity for him for one afternoon. He's inside now making himself a snack and then we're going to hang out in my room and watch a movie for a bit... It shouldn't be this hard to be a kid.
So things were going "swimmingly" for quite a while... at least an hour. Then the three kids wanted easy child/difficult child 3 and difficult child 1 to come in so they could play a tag game in the water with more people. difficult child 1 declined, but easy child finally was convinced and just jumped in with her clothes on.
But after a half hour or so, there was an incident between difficult child 2 and easy child and I had to pull them both out of the pool. easy child and the older girl accusing difficult child 2 of trying to pull their pants down, plus easy child saying he difficult child 2 kicked her in "the privates" and him crying because easy child pinched his chest really hard. He denies "trying" to do what they said -- that he was trying to pull himself out of the water using them to gain a footing and subsequently grabbing onto them... not sure about the kicking, but this isn't the first time. He is having impulse control problems, especially with his sibs, but it seems whenever easy child and difficult child 2 get together the sparks fly -- sometimes easy child's complaints are legit, and sometimes she's a big part of the problem.
I just feel bad for difficult child 2 because he has no friends and these neighbor kids are about it -- and when he tries to include easy child, things fall apart and he is left alone and easy child's out there with the other girls now.
Maybe I let him stay out there too long and it was just too much activity for him for one afternoon. He's inside now making himself a snack and then we're going to hang out in my room and watch a movie for a bit... It shouldn't be this hard to be a kid.
