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Growing up I saw my future as a Veterinarian, one story white, little house with white picket fence , green lawn,two dogs and 4 kids. Thats what I wanted since barely walking...but I dropped out of High School, never went actually. Attempted collage for over a decade... no real solid Job/relationship. I realized Id never be a vet but when I had a miscarriage at 3 months, I had to bury my baby.A part of me died too. Maybe God sent me a sign.. no kids. My daughter came 2 years later.. my son 6 years after that. I know I was never perfect, I know I love my kids more than this world. But my children walk all over me... they just arent happy with me. This is my fault... yes, my dad and I have yelled a lot back and forth and have slammed some doors. But after years of this.. we are on eggshells.
I see neighbors calling their kids in, the kids go no argument. Oh maybe a lil " please another min"? Either answer kids go in or can handle the answer.. No arguments no back talk, no violence, no " oh I thought u wanted me to play and be off computers etc my kids say" I do but when its from 10am-8pm with all the other kids, we have most the kids at my house.. no homework done / kids are sick or they are constant fights.. ya.. I get tired of it and say thats enough for the night. I tell em 10 min.. than 5 etc. Even hey" when u all come in we can eat ,decorate etc" But no!!!!
My son is starting to really be violent with our neighbors kid, now his new friends down the street. has started being bossy, annoying them, throwing things, showing his attitude in front of them by hitting his sis or the girl. He took off down the block today with no shoes because he didnt want to wear shoes, so he was angry and said he's leaving and not coming back. He tells me at night when we sleep hes going to leave the house one day and he will never be back. We have been hiding keys and phones for a while now. Its chilly out now, he's a lil sick , etc. He still spitting on everyone as well as every ones drinks and foods. He threatens to break neighbors cars and and windows. He screams POLICE all the way down the block ... He still demands we shutup or its severe violent tantrum ... He knows these kids are hearing/watching this. Daily, hours on end.. very rare happy moments..I cry now when there are Im happy and shock its happening. Is the moments real? Is it in my head? When will those moments happen again? If ten minutes goes by and the house is quite.... it cant be my house...There in school and it literaly takes me almost all day to unwind from the night before and the morning of. Then they are home and the fighting starts again. Its soooo rare those few days my son was awesome perfect in the am... It was like a dream.
I told them in front of the girl Im done they can go to their dads, maybe he will be better for them. They will be free from me and my rules. I am done. I dont want them to go, I love them, but since their dad says he can do a better job... maybe he's right. I know I said this before and you all said father wont get them the help. Well, I bet they wont need help once they go .. its meeeee.My daughter still wont bath correctly...
My best friend said I should just admit them in the hospital psychiatric ward- thats what she and parents did for her Bipolar/other issues child. So they can get help now.. us to. I keep going back n forth.. is it all me.. yes theres something wrong ...I know.. But.. I don't know I just dk. Why did God give me kids who hate me, who I love and cherish and steer them the rite way? I couldnt even imagine life without kids.. I know I have failed I just wish my kids knew or/and cared how much I love them
I see neighbors calling their kids in, the kids go no argument. Oh maybe a lil " please another min"? Either answer kids go in or can handle the answer.. No arguments no back talk, no violence, no " oh I thought u wanted me to play and be off computers etc my kids say" I do but when its from 10am-8pm with all the other kids, we have most the kids at my house.. no homework done / kids are sick or they are constant fights.. ya.. I get tired of it and say thats enough for the night. I tell em 10 min.. than 5 etc. Even hey" when u all come in we can eat ,decorate etc" But no!!!!
My son is starting to really be violent with our neighbors kid, now his new friends down the street. has started being bossy, annoying them, throwing things, showing his attitude in front of them by hitting his sis or the girl. He took off down the block today with no shoes because he didnt want to wear shoes, so he was angry and said he's leaving and not coming back. He tells me at night when we sleep hes going to leave the house one day and he will never be back. We have been hiding keys and phones for a while now. Its chilly out now, he's a lil sick , etc. He still spitting on everyone as well as every ones drinks and foods. He threatens to break neighbors cars and and windows. He screams POLICE all the way down the block ... He still demands we shutup or its severe violent tantrum ... He knows these kids are hearing/watching this. Daily, hours on end.. very rare happy moments..I cry now when there are Im happy and shock its happening. Is the moments real? Is it in my head? When will those moments happen again? If ten minutes goes by and the house is quite.... it cant be my house...There in school and it literaly takes me almost all day to unwind from the night before and the morning of. Then they are home and the fighting starts again. Its soooo rare those few days my son was awesome perfect in the am... It was like a dream.
I told them in front of the girl Im done they can go to their dads, maybe he will be better for them. They will be free from me and my rules. I am done. I dont want them to go, I love them, but since their dad says he can do a better job... maybe he's right. I know I said this before and you all said father wont get them the help. Well, I bet they wont need help once they go .. its meeeee.My daughter still wont bath correctly...
My best friend said I should just admit them in the hospital psychiatric ward- thats what she and parents did for her Bipolar/other issues child. So they can get help now.. us to. I keep going back n forth.. is it all me.. yes theres something wrong ...I know.. But.. I don't know I just dk. Why did God give me kids who hate me, who I love and cherish and steer them the rite way? I couldnt even imagine life without kids.. I know I have failed I just wish my kids knew or/and cared how much I love them