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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 115677" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Meowbunny gave you a good recommendation - "Explosive Child" by Ross Greene - darn good book for making life easier. it's a matter of changing how you handle him, turning things on their head and seeing it all from a different and more productive point of view.</p><p></p><p>Look at what you're doing now - is it working? Clearly not. And yet it's what we all were raised with, it's what everybody else does, it's what you are told to do, to be a good parent. But it is not working.</p><p></p><p>First rule - if it's not working, don't do it.</p><p></p><p>Second rule - only engage in battles you know you can win.</p><p></p><p>Third rule - become his advocate and helper, not his obstacle. And to know how to do that, read the book. And work out WHY he is reacting - kids are not generally oppositional as an immediate response, unless they have learned to be. And if this has been learned, it can be unlearned - but not by the same methods it was first taken on board.</p><p></p><p>This also works on PCs and education boards.</p><p></p><p>Good luck with the evaluation, welcome to the site, you are NOT a bad mother so stop beating yourself up, and do keep us posted on how you go. Any questions - we're here.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 115677, member: 1991"] Meowbunny gave you a good recommendation - "Explosive Child" by Ross Greene - darn good book for making life easier. it's a matter of changing how you handle him, turning things on their head and seeing it all from a different and more productive point of view. Look at what you're doing now - is it working? Clearly not. And yet it's what we all were raised with, it's what everybody else does, it's what you are told to do, to be a good parent. But it is not working. First rule - if it's not working, don't do it. Second rule - only engage in battles you know you can win. Third rule - become his advocate and helper, not his obstacle. And to know how to do that, read the book. And work out WHY he is reacting - kids are not generally oppositional as an immediate response, unless they have learned to be. And if this has been learned, it can be unlearned - but not by the same methods it was first taken on board. This also works on PCs and education boards. Good luck with the evaluation, welcome to the site, you are NOT a bad mother so stop beating yourself up, and do keep us posted on how you go. Any questions - we're here. Marg [/QUOTE]
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