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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 418307" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Jena.........while he probably shouldn't have unloaded the way he did.............it is a<strong> good</strong> thing. You've needed to know what he was really thinking/feeling for a long time. And it's good that he finally let the wall down and laid it on the line. Delivery might need to be worked on.........but hon if he didn't care? He'd have walked out the door without telling you a darn thing.</p><p></p><p>The kids will be fine. Couples fight is perfectly normal..........and while he unloaded a ton of garbage at once he did it right.......no swearing, name calling, no abuse.</p><p></p><p>A lot of men are what I call "stuffers". They stuff everything until they blow like a volcano. Often it's because they're not so comfortable with their emotions or confrontation in any real sense. I'd like to say it's a guy thing.......but I used to do it too.</p><p></p><p>My temper is so horrific that when I was younger I was as afraid of it as anyone else. So I stuffed 99 percet of stuff that bugged me. Then occasionally I would blow on husband in a huge way. Bad because I'd be bringing up stuff from years before........ Now as I learned to control my temper better......I came to realize this wasn't fair to husband. He was always blindsided with it. And half the time most of the stuff I was bringing up he didn't even remember. That would make me madder still. lol So I had to learn to speak up when things cropped up. Took me a very long time to do......and I am still working on it. But he's never blindsided these days.....I'm not much of a stuffer anymore. lol </p><p></p><p>Now that it's out there.........you two can work on it together. </p><p></p><p>Tell difficult child to get over it. Adults get mad too. Sometimes it's not pretty when it happens. But it does happen. Such is life and human nature.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 418307, member: 84"] Jena.........while he probably shouldn't have unloaded the way he did.............it is a[B] good[/B] thing. You've needed to know what he was really thinking/feeling for a long time. And it's good that he finally let the wall down and laid it on the line. Delivery might need to be worked on.........but hon if he didn't care? He'd have walked out the door without telling you a darn thing. The kids will be fine. Couples fight is perfectly normal..........and while he unloaded a ton of garbage at once he did it right.......no swearing, name calling, no abuse. A lot of men are what I call "stuffers". They stuff everything until they blow like a volcano. Often it's because they're not so comfortable with their emotions or confrontation in any real sense. I'd like to say it's a guy thing.......but I used to do it too. My temper is so horrific that when I was younger I was as afraid of it as anyone else. So I stuffed 99 percet of stuff that bugged me. Then occasionally I would blow on husband in a huge way. Bad because I'd be bringing up stuff from years before........ Now as I learned to control my temper better......I came to realize this wasn't fair to husband. He was always blindsided with it. And half the time most of the stuff I was bringing up he didn't even remember. That would make me madder still. lol So I had to learn to speak up when things cropped up. Took me a very long time to do......and I am still working on it. But he's never blindsided these days.....I'm not much of a stuffer anymore. lol Now that it's out there.........you two can work on it together. Tell difficult child to get over it. Adults get mad too. Sometimes it's not pretty when it happens. But it does happen. Such is life and human nature. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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