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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 418461" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Jena </p><p></p><p>difficult child is old enough to start learning about relationships. Sounds like with her it's more a jealousy issue than anything. You need to be firm about the fact that you have every right to have a life partner and to spend time with that partner, whether she likes it or not. I went through this with katie who had no memory of her parents being together because they divorced when she was about 18 mos old. Still she was jealous and didn't want to share her daddy. I had to set up rules for it and stick to them, while taking time to develop my own relationship with her and making sure that husband was still spending time with her too. Once we were past the jealousy/sharing deal things went pretty smoothly considering she was a difficult child from the get go. lol</p><p></p><p>I use husband as my venting board..........but never when he first walked in the door. It was usually later when the kids went to bed......still I kept a lot of what went on while he was at work to myself unless I really needed to unload because the situations were taken care of and there was no need to rehash them. We have a standing rule if the kids ask him for something he asks me first in case they've come to me and I've already given them an answer. (which is why I was ticked he'd told katie we'd take her to disability without asking me first) This worked both ways sometimes, but usually due to the fact that I was home with them 24/7, I didn't run stuff past him as much as he did me. He worked 2nd shift and for yrs only saw the kids on the weekend, so discipline had to be handled by me, which meant he did more of What did your mother say? than I did What did your father say? Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 418461, member: 84"] Jena difficult child is old enough to start learning about relationships. Sounds like with her it's more a jealousy issue than anything. You need to be firm about the fact that you have every right to have a life partner and to spend time with that partner, whether she likes it or not. I went through this with katie who had no memory of her parents being together because they divorced when she was about 18 mos old. Still she was jealous and didn't want to share her daddy. I had to set up rules for it and stick to them, while taking time to develop my own relationship with her and making sure that husband was still spending time with her too. Once we were past the jealousy/sharing deal things went pretty smoothly considering she was a difficult child from the get go. lol I use husband as my venting board..........but never when he first walked in the door. It was usually later when the kids went to bed......still I kept a lot of what went on while he was at work to myself unless I really needed to unload because the situations were taken care of and there was no need to rehash them. We have a standing rule if the kids ask him for something he asks me first in case they've come to me and I've already given them an answer. (which is why I was ticked he'd told katie we'd take her to disability without asking me first) This worked both ways sometimes, but usually due to the fact that I was home with them 24/7, I didn't run stuff past him as much as he did me. He worked 2nd shift and for yrs only saw the kids on the weekend, so discipline had to be handled by me, which meant he did more of What did your mother say? than I did What did your father say? Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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