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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 87386" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I'm trying to imagine my daughter following any rules while I slept. Nope, never would have happened. So, if your girls are even following half the rules, you're many steps ahead of many of us.</p><p></p><p>Your rules are very reasonable. It is just going to be hard for you to enforce them because of your work schedule. Are you one who can be waken up and then go right back to sleep? If so, I'd suggest removing the keyboard and mouse from the computer and whatever you can from the TV so neither can be operated while it is homework/chore time. The girls can wake you up to get them when things have been completed. If you can't (I know I can't -- once awake I'm awake), then you're going to have to give the consequences when you wake up for broken rules.</p><p></p><p>Check the school and see if there are any homework clubs. Those saved me when my daughter was younger. As was said, peer pressure is wonderful.</p><p></p><p>I'd still vote that you take things like showers out of the equation. Yes, it is nice to have clean children but is it worth the arguing? My child loves to sleep in her clothes. Drives me crazy but I've learned to not say a word -- just not worth the arguing. At least she's now showering daily and, if I'd let her, it would be 3-4 times a day (we're in a drought so no go). At 10, a shower a week was a small miracle. I used to wash the car 2 or 3 times a week just to use it as an excuse to hose her down.</p><p></p><p>If you haven't read The Explosive Child yet, I'd recommend that you do so. I found it extremely useful in helping me understand that some battles just weren't worth it. I think those of us who are single parents need all the help we can get to avoid some of the battles. We have double stress to begin with and when you add a special child into the mix, it quaduples at the very least.</p><p></p><p>Don't worry about not being consistent. Just do the best you can. The more you work at it, the easier it becomes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 87386, member: 3626"] I'm trying to imagine my daughter following any rules while I slept. Nope, never would have happened. So, if your girls are even following half the rules, you're many steps ahead of many of us. Your rules are very reasonable. It is just going to be hard for you to enforce them because of your work schedule. Are you one who can be waken up and then go right back to sleep? If so, I'd suggest removing the keyboard and mouse from the computer and whatever you can from the TV so neither can be operated while it is homework/chore time. The girls can wake you up to get them when things have been completed. If you can't (I know I can't -- once awake I'm awake), then you're going to have to give the consequences when you wake up for broken rules. Check the school and see if there are any homework clubs. Those saved me when my daughter was younger. As was said, peer pressure is wonderful. I'd still vote that you take things like showers out of the equation. Yes, it is nice to have clean children but is it worth the arguing? My child loves to sleep in her clothes. Drives me crazy but I've learned to not say a word -- just not worth the arguing. At least she's now showering daily and, if I'd let her, it would be 3-4 times a day (we're in a drought so no go). At 10, a shower a week was a small miracle. I used to wash the car 2 or 3 times a week just to use it as an excuse to hose her down. If you haven't read The Explosive Child yet, I'd recommend that you do so. I found it extremely useful in helping me understand that some battles just weren't worth it. I think those of us who are single parents need all the help we can get to avoid some of the battles. We have double stress to begin with and when you add a special child into the mix, it quaduples at the very least. Don't worry about not being consistent. Just do the best you can. The more you work at it, the easier it becomes. [/QUOTE]
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