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<blockquote data-quote="OTE" data-source="post: 19064"><p>I really am so happy for you.</p><p></p><p>I may be the queen of the internet but it's not always such a bad thing. In such situations (which have only arisen for me when gfs are in the process of divorce and we want to know what he's really doing, really owns, etc). You don't want to lie but find a way to stretch the truth if you have to.</p><p></p><p>First thing I'd do is call the local police and see if they will tell you if there have been any police calls to that address. Usually they will because it's public record. In that process you are likely to find out who is living there with her, how long she's been there, whether there's drug activity there, etc. If necessary say that you are looking to buy a house on that block and hear that this address is a problem.</p><p></p><p>Go to the town, county or city real estate property search and find out the owner's name. It could be a real estate agency handling the rental. But if you make a few calls you may get some info about who is living there... eg they're typically quite happy to say that the tenant is a (insert curse) and would love to get rid of her or is a lovely person and they don't think she'll be leaving any time soon.</p><p></p><p>As you say, if necessary, get a private detective there to send you a few photos of her and the kids. Shouldn't be expensive because it won't take long if he does it when the kids are leaving for school. You'll be able to tell if the kids look Ok or if they look like they're living in a crack or meth house. Detective will also be able to tell you if she looks like she's on meth or something. These yrs on meth will have taken their toll.</p><p></p><p>About that letter of venom. I don't know the story of it but remember that it was written by a young girl under the influence of an unsavory man while she was on meth. She might have meant every word or it might have been dictated to her by him. If you find out that she's turned around then go for it. If she hasn't then it's a different story. I understand that she didn't contact you if she has turned around but some years have gone by and she may not know what to say now.</p><p></p><p>Don't forget google earth and even mapquest has a satellite view feature. Most town property sites do as well. Will give you some idea of the neighborhood anyway.</p><p></p><p>Some places have birth records online and that will tell you if she's had any more babies.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OTE, post: 19064"] I really am so happy for you. I may be the queen of the internet but it's not always such a bad thing. In such situations (which have only arisen for me when gfs are in the process of divorce and we want to know what he's really doing, really owns, etc). You don't want to lie but find a way to stretch the truth if you have to. First thing I'd do is call the local police and see if they will tell you if there have been any police calls to that address. Usually they will because it's public record. In that process you are likely to find out who is living there with her, how long she's been there, whether there's drug activity there, etc. If necessary say that you are looking to buy a house on that block and hear that this address is a problem. Go to the town, county or city real estate property search and find out the owner's name. It could be a real estate agency handling the rental. But if you make a few calls you may get some info about who is living there... eg they're typically quite happy to say that the tenant is a (insert curse) and would love to get rid of her or is a lovely person and they don't think she'll be leaving any time soon. As you say, if necessary, get a private detective there to send you a few photos of her and the kids. Shouldn't be expensive because it won't take long if he does it when the kids are leaving for school. You'll be able to tell if the kids look Ok or if they look like they're living in a crack or meth house. Detective will also be able to tell you if she looks like she's on meth or something. These yrs on meth will have taken their toll. About that letter of venom. I don't know the story of it but remember that it was written by a young girl under the influence of an unsavory man while she was on meth. She might have meant every word or it might have been dictated to her by him. If you find out that she's turned around then go for it. If she hasn't then it's a different story. I understand that she didn't contact you if she has turned around but some years have gone by and she may not know what to say now. Don't forget google earth and even mapquest has a satellite view feature. Most town property sites do as well. Will give you some idea of the neighborhood anyway. Some places have birth records online and that will tell you if she's had any more babies. [/QUOTE]
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