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<blockquote data-quote="canthandleitanymore" data-source="post: 215044" data-attributes="member: 6345"><p>Thanks for all your comments. Steely, yours in particular. Maybe I'm way out of line and need to just back off. It's just that Dad has never tried, so it's hard for me to sympathize with what he has "struggled" with. He has passed this kid off on his parents every chance he gets. He ignores the obvious. Quite frankly, he is a lazy parent and doesn't want to sacrifice in his own life for what his son needs. He gives it lip service, but at the end of the day the responsibility lies with me (or his parents). It's easier for him to plant his son in front of a computer game or TV than deal with the issues in front of him, and that's exactly what he does. He does not "try" at all. </p><p> </p><p>Last night, for example, I talked to Dad on the phone. He was downstairs watching TV, B was upstairs watching TV. That is a typical night in that household. There is little interaction and no "quality time" whatsoever. This kid is BEGGING for it. B even said it the other night, "you never spend time with me." How much more direct does it get then that? His dad just doesn't listen, doesn't hear his own kid crying out to him. Dad only does what's convenient for him. Period. I have planned outings, gotten B into Band and basketball, I take him to workout (he loves it), take him swimming, involve him in activities with my nephews and niece, take him to school events. Dad does none of this. He'll go along if I ask, but he would never initiate any of this himself. I do what I do because I think it's what B needs...what every kid needs. Even a troubled kid.</p><p> </p><p>I need to back away and let them figure it out. As much as this kid needs someone who can provide some direction, I can't be that person. Obviously when I try it's wrong and when I do nothing it's wrong.</p><p> </p><p>I'm done.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="canthandleitanymore, post: 215044, member: 6345"] Thanks for all your comments. Steely, yours in particular. Maybe I'm way out of line and need to just back off. It's just that Dad has never tried, so it's hard for me to sympathize with what he has "struggled" with. He has passed this kid off on his parents every chance he gets. He ignores the obvious. Quite frankly, he is a lazy parent and doesn't want to sacrifice in his own life for what his son needs. He gives it lip service, but at the end of the day the responsibility lies with me (or his parents). It's easier for him to plant his son in front of a computer game or TV than deal with the issues in front of him, and that's exactly what he does. He does not "try" at all. Last night, for example, I talked to Dad on the phone. He was downstairs watching TV, B was upstairs watching TV. That is a typical night in that household. There is little interaction and no "quality time" whatsoever. This kid is BEGGING for it. B even said it the other night, "you never spend time with me." How much more direct does it get then that? His dad just doesn't listen, doesn't hear his own kid crying out to him. Dad only does what's convenient for him. Period. I have planned outings, gotten B into Band and basketball, I take him to workout (he loves it), take him swimming, involve him in activities with my nephews and niece, take him to school events. Dad does none of this. He'll go along if I ask, but he would never initiate any of this himself. I do what I do because I think it's what B needs...what every kid needs. Even a troubled kid. I need to back away and let them figure it out. As much as this kid needs someone who can provide some direction, I can't be that person. Obviously when I try it's wrong and when I do nothing it's wrong. I'm done. [/QUOTE]
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